When my kids were teens and I was suffering badly from undiagnosed fibromyalgia pain and depression I finally just broke down in front of my teens and cried. I told them that just a few years ago I had been their age and wanted to do whatever I wanted. I explained the responsibilities I now had, how I felt that their behaviour reflected badly on my ability to parent, how I was feeling like a failure, how I needed their help in keeping our family going.... Guess what? They rose to the occasion and jumped in and helped.
At one point I told my daughter that her choices in school were going to change her life journey. I wasn't doing this to her. She was doing it to herself. I used examples of older teens who had dropped out and now were lost in drugs and pregnant... She got the message that it was her choices that were plotting the course of her life.
All of my kids are now responsible, productive adults. Yes, I laid a guilt trip on them.... It worked. My grandpa was a Great Lakes Captain and as he used to say, "Any port in a storm!"
~ Jeannie, Forum Moderator/Diabetes & Fibromyalgia
I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. ~Mother Teresa
"People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun's out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within."- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross