Hello. I have an appointment with my therapist on Monday. I will know what she thinks about
this behavior then.
I am officially dating this guy. I'm starting to feel chemistry with him now. I texted my mom telling her I like him and that I'm keeping my options
open. I wanted her to just accept the fact. But she got upset and me where he worked and I told her. Then she looked up the place and called it pretending to be a lady from a Honda dealership asking for his job title and how long he's been working there. The manager said that he's been working on and off for a few months and that he works in the stock room
Then my mom told me everything and I immediately started crying. She told me that I fell for a stock boy. She called him a liar and a con artist. I called him and told him what my mom did. He thought my mom was crazy. He was upset. He said he's not the manager anymore (which I already knew since he had gone to Greece for a year and lost the position). But working in the stock room doesn't mean he's a stock boy he said. Then I went to his house and he called his district manager. He had her on speaker. She said she is offering him a manager position again. Then he was like "see? I'm not lying." Then I texted my mom and she wanted me to fax one of his pay checks to her. So I did. Once he becomes manager he will be making around 40 to 50 K. Right now he just makes 14 dollars per hour. My parents kept calling me and texting me while I was trying to study today. I faxed her the pay check but she still didn't approve. She texted me saying that her, my dad and my sister want nothing to do with me anymore and that they aren't giving me money. They said that I will be living in poverty. I told her I'm just dating him.. I don't know what will happen. As I was at starbucks studying, he was quizing me. As I got my mom's texts I started crying and he got sad too. But my friends here think I did the right thing. If it wasn't this guy, it would have been another guy down the road. They need to realize they can't treat me like this. Did I do the right thing? Am I settling for less like my mom said? I'm so sad.
Here is a copy of the e-mail my mom sent me...
Why are you doing this to yourself? Dont you have any self respect that you will stoop so low to date a stock boy that makes $14 an hr. He cant even pay rent with that after taxes thats why he lives with his parents. He is a loser. Of course he is nice to you he is dating you because you're going to be a doctor. Why doesnt he date a cleaning lady making $5 an hr? He is no fool.
I really cant deal with all this drama it is affecting my health. I cant sleeep at night, I have your dad to worry about
his diabetes is over the roof even with insilin and monday we will find out if there is more cancer. I have bigger things to worry about
. Apparantly you have no standards you will date just about
anyone. I dont want to know anything more about
him. I dont care. Just dont call me to complain about
school or about
him or that you ran out of money. If you have so much time on your hands go find a job.
I am trying to
open your eyes but you are in a fog. I am a realist not superficial. $14 an hr. cant pay rent or put food on the table for a family or help pay your loans.I can guarantee that a relationship that starts with lies will not go anywhere. If at 29 he still does not have a bachelors degree he will not amount to much. My friend Vaso went against her parents and she lived to regret it. whats the big rush when the time comes that you are graduating you will find someone compatible to you. This guy is not it. Please dont tell me anymore about
him I really dont care. I have tried and tried and you dont get it.
Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 6/18/2009 7:01:54 PM (GMT-6)