Hi Blue Moon,
I’m sorry about
your break-up. I know it’s really painful, and I think sometimes the worst part is not understanding why a break-up happens. Some things are beyond our comprehension, no matter how much soul searching we do, and it takes time to accept that. Sometimes people fall out of love, even when they don’t want to or plan to, and it’s possible that your ex doesn’t even fully understand why he feels the way he does.
I’m sorry that he’s still sending you messages…..I think it’s often easier to heal when you don’t have to see or speak to the person after the fact. Maybe he is feeling guilty, or maybe he thinks the two of you can be friends….it’s hard to say. However, you may have to spell it out for him that you want to be left alone. Hopefully, he will respect that.
You have a right to feel anger or any other emotion that comes up for you. Grief is a process that runs on its own schedule, so please be patient and kind to yourself, and give yourself a chance to heal from this. You have my sincere compassion in your situation.
Moderator, Depression Forum
“No one is as capable of gratitude as one who has emerged from the kingdom of night.” ~Elie Wiesel