Is this love or Anxiety ?

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   Posted 6/17/2009 9:22 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi im new to this but i was just wondering iv been with my bf for nearly years now i was completly in love untill someone wanted me to go out with another boy i started worrying what if i like him more what if i dont love my bf so the worrys went on an on and on 24/7 for 3 months i mean i didnt think about anything else so i finished it and within an hour i felt like i wanted to kill my self barring in mind he had done nothing wrong to me we were perfect for each other so i begged for him back i thought the feeling was worse than the worrying feeling well for 2 hours i was so happy then the thoughts started coming back and i felt sick lost my appetite well then i thought i had depression so went to a counceller he thought i had anxiety but its been 4 months and on and of i felt different about him one minute i thought i love you so much then i wanted to finish him due to all this built up worry i thought it was anxiety untill someone told me you know when you love someone and no worry or negative thoughts can change that, i just wanted some peoples opinions because im stuck i cry at the thought of not being with him yet the worry will not leave me alone i just want to know do you feel like this when your not in love with someone or does it sound like anxiety gad because if i end it i want to get better because ending it is going to send me very depressed. thanks amiee xxxx
Edit:  I gave your thread a title. 

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 6/17/2009 3:39:38 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 6/17/2009 11:02 AM (GMT -6)   
HI Ammie,

I just wanted to welcome you to the forum. I hope that you can sort this out. My motto is to stay in the moment and take life one day at a time. When you don't know what to do, don't do anything. You will get through this.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 6/17/2009 1:49 PM (GMT -6)   
first of all i want to welcome you.i am very new to the forum too and already i have gotten really good feedback on my problems and the advice has really helped me so far.
It sounds to me like you have all the symptoms of love.when you thought about going out with another boy,you couldn't stand the fact that there could be a chance of you falling in love with someone started feeling weird and it was not because you have problems, depression or is because you were punishing yourself for even thinking the thought of liking someone said it yourself, your boyfriend did nothing wrong to you at love him.then you thought about another boy when your friend brought it up so you punished yourself by bringing on all these wierd thoughts,feelings and imaginary symptoms.
I have been put in many situations where i show all the regular symptoms of anxiety and wasn't because i had these was because i wanted to acknowledge the fact that i had done something wrong to someone or thought a bad thought.i wanted people to be able to see it on my face.the way you described your situation,it sounds like you could be in the exact same predicament.i could be wrong but i know a little something about situations like should really think about could help you to better ananlyze your thoughts so that you will not be tempted to have these thoughts and feelings that make you seem so irregular and not yourself.
As for your boyfriend,it is extremely obvious that you love him.the best advice i can give you for that is to never give up on him no matter what happens in the near future.
Please write me back and tell me what you think.please keep me updated.
Best Wishes.
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   Posted 6/17/2009 4:43 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello Aimee

Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression Forum. I don't have an answer for you but hope you continue to see your therapist for help in dealing with your anxiety/depression.

I see you have received some advice already and I am with Karen on this one............Do stay in the moment and try not to anticipate the future or worry about the past.

You may be over thinking your problems instead of just letting life play out in this type of situation.

Take care,




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   Posted 6/18/2009 3:58 AM (GMT -6)   
aimee, agree with kitt. take care of you, ok. we care, all the best, jamie
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