I was in relationship with very similar circumstances when I was about
your age. Just trying to see things from your parents perspective as I approach my mid-twenties, it may be hard for them to see you in a serious relationship right now just because you're so young. Being young doesn't mean you can't understand what love is, but the experiences I've had through college, grad school and pursuing a career have allowed me to grow, find out more about
who I am, and know what I want in a relationship. Looking back, I'm glad my parents told me to keep my options
open because I never knew then the people I would meet and the things I would do after I graduated from high school. Being a single adult and free to explore and meet new people is a fun time in your life because you can have a sense of freedom that you can't have when you're seriously dating and basing all of your decisions on what is best for the relationship. I think your parents just want to make sure you are keeping your options
open and making choices that are best for YOU.
From my personal experience, long distance certainly complicates things even further, no matter what your age. It places an automatic stress-factor into the relationship when you aren't able to see each other in person and puts a lot of pressure on when you'll actually get to see each other. It also creates a separation in your lives when you can't share your everyday experiences with each other. If you start noticing that you're avoiding social get-togethers with your friends so you can talk with him on the phone or online, it may be a sign of an isolating or unhealthy situation for you.
I don't mean for this message to sound discouraging, but when I read your situation, I couldn't help but give my opinion since I've been through it and even though I don't know you, I do sense that you are a very caring and thoughtful individual and I want you to be happy
Maybe letting him know that you need to take a break to sort things out might be good for you, so you can see if you feel better spending more time with your friends and being at peace with your parents.
Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it. -Tori Amos
Post Edited (NightWish) : 6/18/2009 11:38:40 PM (GMT-6)