Good Morning Aurora,
I am just getting to your post as I wanted to have enough time to give you a thoughtful answer. :)
On your first question, a small sharp knife sometimes works, for example, an XACTO knife - but the pill can go flying, so leave some barriers around the area where you are cutting the pill.
The best approach using the pill cutter is patience, patience, cut slowly and carefully... and using a pill cutter with a really sharp blade. They are quite inexpensive so perhaps buying 2 when you purchase a pill cutter would give you a spare for the day of a dull blade.
I have read through the responses and as always you have received very caring and wise responses.
I am one person that had to go back up on my AD meds at one time and also I searched high and low for the best match after my original AD med pooped out. I never did find another med that worked as well so I went the therapy route. Right now I am off of SNRI, Cymbalta for about 8 weeks and feeling pretty good but do have days that could be better.
If you feel you would benefit by increasing your med for awhile please do give yourself permission to request that of your physician and no beating yourself up about it. It is OK. I promise it does not make you a weak or less of a person. It is simply taking care of yourself.
Now as far as supporting your son, is there a way you can start to steer your Sunday conversations with him into the positive zone and help him start to let go of his loss and pain. For me rehashing all the hurts and pains I have endured sometimes makes me feel depressed and the tears start to flow.
I am sure watching your son go through this has affected your own depression as you are a loving and caring Mother and when our children hurt we hurt. That of course makes us feel sad and then the depression kicks in on us.
It is true that there is no way around feeling emotional pain after a relationship breakup. When a relationship dies, people are often surprised at how hard it is to manage the heartbreak and the fact that it can feel a lot like grieving. Even though it may seem impossible to go on after a shattered relationship, it’s very important to help your son look past the pain in order to survive this situation. Turning him toward positive steps is a wonderful way to help both of you get past this sad time for him.
You are doing the right things but in order to survive this tough time, I agree 100% with Karen, you must take care of you. Remember you cannot change fate or cure your son's pain but you can be there and support him as you are doing. Just knowing that he is young and a survivor will help you stay in the moment.
You have my support and friendship as always.
I wish you peace dear Aurora.
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