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   Posted 6/21/2009 8:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone hope all is well with everybody!I'm feeling pretty sad already this morning I woke up shaking again so of course my thoughts went right to today is going to be a bad day. I hate this feeling inside sometimes it feels like it's going to drive me to lose my mind. I feel very alone today and just plain sad. I'm so tired of fighting this anxiety,panic and depression i'm exhausted. I want so desperatly to get better so when I do feel good for a lil while during the day then when I start feeling bad again it's a real big disappointment. I don't know I don't have any friends here where I live and only a few family members I hate them to see me this way so I try so hard to keep it hidden which don't work it still shows. I just feel so alone and sad today.

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   Posted 6/21/2009 10:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi April,

Really really try to think positive. I can see you are anticipating a bad day. But things can always turn around. But first you have to change your way of thinking. Like, it feels like it is going to be a bad day, but things could change. Or tell yourself, it is going to be a good day today. If you do that enough, it can change the way that you are thinking. With life, things can change rapidly. Things could get better. And a lot is how we look at things. So try really hard to be positive. You can do this.

Try writing affirmation notes around the house. Like I am a good person, or I am going to have a good day.

Do you take anything for anxiety? Forgive me if I can't remember. I have fibromyalgia and my memory is bad. But I think that some anxiety meds would really help you and calm your thinking down.

And always remember that we are here for you and want you to feel good. Try going for a short walk. that gets the endorphines going in your system. If you are anxious, try rubbing your forearms really fast and rough. That brings out a natural valium that we have in our bodies. That will calm you down. I use to rub my back on the back of a chair. That really helps too. It gives you a warm fuzzy feeling.

Regardless, I hope that you feel better soon. Do you go to any counseling? If not, you could really use the feedback that you get from a therapist. They can help you to change your thinking and teach you how to be happy. Which you desreve to be.

Best wishes for a wonderful day.

Hugs, Kaern
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Date Joined Jun 2009
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   Posted 6/21/2009 2:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi April,

I'm feeling the same way lonely and depressed. Afraid to be around anyone less they find out what a mess I really am. I feel like a nobody with nothing to offer anyone and I don't really understand why I was put on earth when I know my depression hurts my whole family, affects my job. I don't have any friends because I can't let them know I get like this. I've had so many people walk out of my life because I cry so much and who wants to be around someone like that.

I hope you feel better. I'm trying a new med. but it takes time to get into my system.


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Date Joined Jul 2008
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   Posted 6/21/2009 2:39 PM (GMT -6)   
I think Karen has already given you some good advice & it was really nice for Gizzy to post how she could relate (btw, Welcome, Gizzy to Healing Well!).

I would add that, at least in my experience, that it is always a fight to keep those negative thoughts from taking over my mind. With practice, it has gotten easier to fight them, but it still requires effort. I think of it like participating in a sport. Let's say you play tennis. It is really hard when you first start to learn. You are tired & sore after every practice. Maybe you want to give up sometimes b/c it is so hard & exhausting, but you can choose to push on -- to grow stronger & to learn more plays that will help you become more successful. As you get better, it does get easier to do certain moves & many days you might not be as sore as you were when you first began, but there are still bad days. There are days when you are fighting sickness or injury & you need to back off, but if you stop practicing altogether, you will get weaker & it will be harder to play. There are days when you compete against a really strong, skilled opponent & you lose a match. But by not giving up & keeping to a practice schedule, you are bound to start winning more matches.

Fighting depression is a lot like that. When I first decided to start fighting the negative, depressing, harmful thoughts going through my head, it was really hard. I wanted to give up. Sometimes I would give up. But ultimately, I decided to keep practicing thinking positive thoughts -- saying to myself that I wanted to live, that it was worthwhile to fight, that things would get better. As I practiced saying those things in my head (& sometimes when I was alone, out loud), it got easier & easier to change my thoughts into positive ones. There were days where I was fighting physical sickness or dealing with a lot of bad circumstances, and I would stop fighting. I would give up for a while, and when I decided I wanted to go back to thinking positive thoughts again, it was harder to do so for a while. But I know I don't want to give in to the depression. My life was much worse off when I wasn't even trying. So, I choose to keep fighting those thoughts, even when it is hard. It's easier now than when I first started, but I still have a lot to learn. There are more "exercises" that I want to learn -- visualization (picturing happy memories or good future events in my mind) or positive "self-talk" (telling myself that things will work out, that I am strong, that I can do just about anything) or organizing my life more with good routines (getting up at the same time every day, accomplishing certain tasks, fitting in prayer & meditation, taking time to set goals & reflect on how I am starting to accomplish them, and going to bed at a regular time). And as I learn more of those, I know that I will get stronger & better at beating this depression.

I hope that helps some. We all wish that it was easier to beat depression, but with practice it does get less hard. Hang in there & keep posting here. I & other members will help as much as we can.

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