hi polger, firstly welcome to the hw forum. i am jamie, 37 and male.
sorry that this situation has arisen with your gf. if you know that it is over, and being friends is only going to prolong your agony then i think you know the answer. am sorry, yeah esp with investing your heart and soul in the relationship. i do not know the answer, yet i am here for you. follow your instincts, time can be a good thing to. so are deep and meaningful's-. with kindness my friend jamie.