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   Posted 6/27/2009 1:25 PM (GMT -6)   
I recently found out that my ex broke up with me to be with someone else. This is a girl who he let caused alot of argument between us when we were together. It hurts. I wonder why. It feels soooo unfair. How could he really do that? What was it? Any tips as how i can deal with this will be appreciated.

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   Posted 6/27/2009 1:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Kali-Nikki,

I know how bad it hurts when somebody breaks up with you for somebody else. I am so sorry that this happened. But that doesn't make you any less of a person. You are still special.

Often times the person who causes the break up, doesn't even stick around to be with the other person, they just want to know that they broke somebody up. And sometimes it is a compatability thing. But either way, remember that you are a good person and things will change in time. They will get easier. You will move on and you will forget about what happened.

Just keep posting and letting us know how you are doing. Remember that we are here for you and always will be.

Try to find things to occupy your mind and your time. Maybe find a good book to read, or go for a long walk. Try not to think about the break up and just keep pushing forward. You will get beyond this. It just takes time.

Keep posting and remember that we are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 6/28/2009 1:22 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Kali-Nikki,

Karen is right. Don't let your ex's actions determine your sense of self-worth. You are a wonderful person in your own right. You're going through a tough time right now, and anyone would feel upset and hurt under those circumstances. Sometimes we are in a situation where we can't know "why", and we have to accept that someone has done something that we didn't expect, and that we cannot explain. This break up might have nothing to do with the things you've done or haven't done, and I don't want you to torture yourself with all the questions about why he ended it. I agree.....this was not handled well by your ex at all, and you definitely deserved to be treated better, and with honesty and openness. Give yourself a chance to heal from this....it takes time, but it will happen. It's often the way that when things end for us, other things come along in our lives that offer new opportunities. Trust in yourself to get through this, and know that we are here for you.
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   Posted 6/28/2009 7:35 AM (GMT -6)   
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