I'm tired of fighting..may be long

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Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 90
   Posted 7/7/2009 10:05 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm just so tired of fighting. No I'm not talking about you know what. I just want to run away for a while, I won't but I want to. Things have been really rough lately and of course the depression doesn't help matters any.
I've been laid off from work more then I've worked this year. I do get unemployment but it's not alot due to the amount of time I've been laid off. Things are not looking good at the place I work. The company I work for just closed a facility in Florida (I'm in PA) and 500 people are out of a job there. We are all kind of waiting to see when the bomb is going to drop here. I've been laid off the last 2 weeks now. I'm there almost 17 years. Been looking for something else but no one is hiring around here. All I've ever done is factory work.
I'm tired of fighting with my husband about money all the time. He has a fairly expensive hobby and doesn't see or care that this is one of the big sources of our money problems. I'm tired of fighting with my 10 year old because he has such a case of "I want" that it's not funny. I can't go anywhere without him wanting something. He was mad in Walmart on Sunday because I wouldn't buy him a 9.00 skateboard. His problem is he has expensive tastes just like his daddy. I told him for that 9.00 I could buy 3 boxes of cereal.
My 1992 van died over the weekend too. My husband tried to fix it but he said it was beyond repair and there was a 2 foot long rust hole underneath it when he jacked it up. I knew it was going but was hoping it was going to last a little while longer. Now we are down to  one vehicle (DH is going to borrow one of the delivery vehicles from his boss but he's pissing and moaning about that..I'm like what do you want me to do about it, we can't afford anything right now. His boss is nice enough to let us borrow it so why not take advantage of it for now, until I get back to work or find another job). I work midnight to 8 am and unfortunately no one is close enough to pick me up.
I've given up on fighting the insurance company for coverage of Cymbalta. Even if I would get approved, my copay would be 75.00 a month and there is no way that's happening. I'll stick with the 4.00 celexa from Walmart for now, I guess.
They say when it rains it pours, and it's been raining alot here in PA lately both outside and inside. I'm sorry to vent like this. I used to belong to another depression board and I posted something like this a few months ago and people got on my case about being happy I kind of have a job, husband and crap like that so I'm a little worried about posting this here now.

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 7/7/2009 10:33 AM (GMT -6)   

Dear Jeannie,

Welcome and you are safe here with us.  We won't tell you how great you have it compared to anyone else.  You are entitled to your own feelings but we will help you try to identify ways to get through the tough time.

It seems to me like you have learned a bit already in troulble shooting some of your issues.  Sticking with Celexa was a sound choice.  I took Cymbalta and paid $90.00 per month for a year and a half, I understand how you cannot continue to keep that up when funds are tight.  I weaned off of it and now maintain on meds that are much cheaper. 

Try to stick with productive worry. Productive worry is thinking on situations you can control, and you should use productive worry to take actions that reduce stress and relieve anxiety and depression.
Make a list of your issues and then try to identify ways in which you might be able to deal with the issues.
Remember when your stressing it is not easy to be all things to all people and yes even your children and hubby can cause you to want to scream.  Your normal my friend.  :-)
Perhaps sitting your husband down and asking him to help make a survival plan with you would work? Be willing to give and take in this plan.  If he is to cut back on his favorite things then you must too.  Together
look for reasonable solutions.
I wish you peace,

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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 12
   Posted 7/7/2009 3:36 PM (GMT -6)   

I have had depression for at least 9 years when my father passed away. My Mom two years later and then my son joined the Air Force right after graduation. My doctor put me on Celexa. I have recently found out I have Thyroid Disease and had half my Thyroid removed. This can cause depression. I am trying to find books for my husband to read about depression.We had a argument last night about lack of sex in our marriage.Any suggestions. He just doesn't get why we don't have sex as much as we used to. I tried to explain my depression to him but he still doesn't get it. Any help is appreciated so much!

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Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 90
   Posted 7/7/2009 3:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Kitt! It's good to know I'm safe here. After the last board I tried I was ready to give up completely on message boards.
my husband and I have tried to sit and talk about it but it always ends up in an argument. He claims he needs his hobby as relaxation after a long hard week at work. I'm not trying to tell him to give it up completely, just tone it back a little until we get caught up and stuff. Believe me my main hobby is playing online and Facebook, my other hobbies include needlepoint, cross stitch, stuff like that, nothing nearly as expensive as his. And I haven't bought anything new in about a year. Due to the depression and money problems. I'm a worrier to begin with, part of my problems
Right now my 10 yr old is sitting here sulking because I have no car to take him to his friends house to go swimming. Pisses me off how no one can come here and pick him up but that's life. My mom is upset I haven't been to visit her in a few days but there are other ongoing reasons there why I don't want to go see her. Both myself and my husband blame her for alot of my problems.
Today is just not a good day for me, not by a long shot.

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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 12
   Posted 7/7/2009 4:14 PM (GMT -6)   

I am new here, but I just want to let you know I feel for you. Everyone has their issues in their life and I sympathize with all. Life is a series of challenges and we have to struggle through them. It helps me to have people to talk to and I'm glad there are people here. I'm sending good thoughts your way. Hang in there.

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Date Joined Jun 2007
Total Posts : 53
   Posted 7/8/2009 4:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi - just wanted to say HI and let you know I am thinking about you. I have had financial issues too and completely understand how consuming that is.  Hope your husband sees the light about his hobby and gives you some relief there. Hang in there and know you are not alone. Peace.
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