Really depressed. Leaving

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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 7/13/2009 11:17 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm leaving for college this august. I can't believe that its next month already.

I'm so excited to live on my own, be on my own, and just relax and get out of the unhappiness I live in now. I feel like everythging will get better and be perfect except...along with leaving this life behind, I have to leave my boyfriend behind. I'm so in love with him, and I can't stand the thought of not seeing him for weeks at a time.

We have a very sweet relationship, and I KNOW I have no interest in dating anyone else, or being with anyone else. He says he wants to try and make our relationship still work while I'm away, but I have this feeling that it's going to fall apart. And I seriously will be so depressed. Because I'll know that if I didn't leave to go away to school, we could've been fine.

I'm sure you're all thinking 'get your education, guys dont matter.' and i know that. but this one does. And I'm so scared that I'll regret things.
How can you make a relationship like this work?

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Date Joined Jul 2009
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   Posted 7/14/2009 1:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi sweetie;
I've been doing it for two years.
One thing is you both have to be commited. This is a long-distance relationship, but still a relationship. Meaning that you will both be busy with your lives and the new experiences that you will be facing, but you MUST put time aside to talk.
Msn (on the phone), anything works well. Even though you don't see each other, doesn't mean can't have dates or time to spend with each other.
You might like to try making plans to visit each other. Pick approximate dates. After you do this, you always have something to look forward to. You can count down together.
Send random text messages or photos of you guys having fun (i.e. Frosh week or in a cute outfit you just scored for a good price at H&M) Those are always fun...
Understand that he may like his new "space" and "freedom" but he'll come back around shortly when he realises how much he misses you.
Hope this helps a little.
Good luck with your first year!!!

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Date Joined Oct 2008
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   Posted 7/14/2009 1:52 AM (GMT -6)   
If you guys are the real deal, then distance may hinder your relationship, but it wont destroy it. You need to feel secure in your boyfriends commitment to you- I honestly think that the feelings you are experiencing are quite normal in the situation you are facing. Would you be able to see each other on weekends? could you skype or IM?
I promise im not thinking "she doesnt care bout her education, boys come first", no way. Ive been there and done that- the long distance relationship while i was at college, the whole 9 yards. it was hard. i know you are nervous, but i think you are experiencing Anticapatory Anxiety where you are anxious about up-coming changes/variations of your lifestyle.
Thinking of you- be strong and stay in touch
Maz XX
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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 7/14/2009 5:44 AM (GMT -6)   
good i say and know from exp if it is meant to be it will be. be brave. i do wish you guys well....keep the lines of communication up.....a deep and meaningful may help b4 you leave, thus you can both allay your fears, etc. peace. jamie

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   Posted 7/14/2009 7:47 AM (GMT -6)   

Good Morning,

You are off on a new adventure and I wish you the best.  You have already received some great advice and please do remember to be kind to yourself.

Set realistic goals and pace yourself.  This is a whole new experience for you.

Gentle Hugs



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