I understand your situation all too well. I've been unemployed for about 3 months now, and it is very depressing. I recently had a long talk with my bf about how I feel like I failed, and I told him it's not something that he could fix, or say anything to make me feel better...it's more something I have to deal with and work through. I'm learning myself how to deal with the feelings I have, and it's important for me just to be able to get my feelings out and have someone listen. I think you should try to talk and see how you can help each other now that you're both home not working. Maybe you can be there and work through things together, and try to pull each other up in the situation you're in. It's a hard situation, and really you just have to learn as you go how to deal with your feelings and thoughts. If you could talk based on the premise that you need to help each other, maybe you can help get things better for both of you.
Keep posting and let us know how things are going.
((((((((hugs))))))) and well wishes!
31 yr old female-dx with Crohn's in '97 after emergency resection and appendectomy, 2nd resection '05
Currently on Humira, Prilosec, Effexor, Seroquel, Calcium, Vit D, sublingual B12; phenergan, ultram, clonazepam as needed