my boyfriends morning depression/need advice/help

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   Posted 8/2/2009 4:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello, I am new to all this, but came upon this website in search of information on morning depression.  My boyfriend has told me he has this, he has been on Paxil a long time ago, but quit because he did not think it was helping him.  He said he also becomes very short tempered and angry at times......not at me, we do not live together, but he as brought up the subject of marriage..... I came from an 'angry' family, though I am not that way, very easy going.  And this that he told me really scares me, I do not want to be in a relationship that could be potentially abusive.  Has anyone out there with this disorder also have anger issues?  I have seen his temper a couple times and it frightened me.  Can anyone help me on this? Thanks, so much.....

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   Posted 8/2/2009 5:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Warner,
First off, welcome to Healing Well! I'm wondering whether your boyfriend has had his thyroid checked. I get really, really depressed in the morning due to hypothyroidism. Now I take Synthroid & that has changed my life. It may be that for some reason mornings are just really depressing for him, but since that can be an indication of thyroid problems, it may be worth getting that tested (it is a quick blood test that any PCP can test for).

I would say that if he can't get his temper under control, that you may want to hold off on the marriage. If it is already a concern for you now, imagine being with him watching him get furious for the next 50 years of your life. It's just not worth it. There are some people who show their depression by being angry, but anger & depression do not automatically go together. It sounds like he may need some kind of help. If he is willing to get counseling or anger management classes or something like that & they help, then great, but it has to be his decision.

Take care of yourself & keep posting! I'm sure the other members will be along shortly to welcome you as well.

best wishes,
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Post Edited (Frances_2008) : 8/2/2009 4:13:52 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 8/2/2009 6:32 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello warner41

Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression Forum. I am sorry to hear you bf has anger issues but I do feel it would be wise for the two of your to sit down and talk about the problem.

Do let him know in a non-threatening manner that this anger management problem concerns you.  Perhaps he needs therapy or medications but whatever it is he does own the problem and has to somehow identify a way to control his anger.

I feel like your fear is a clue...a warning's your protective instinct telling you this needs to be looked at further. I'm glad to see that you are not ignoring it.

Again a warm welcome to you and do stick with us.



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   Posted 8/4/2009 5:28 AM (GMT -6)   
welcome warner41. agree with kitt. also give your bf some credit with having the guts to bring it up. communication is key. talk about it together, maybe you can go to the doc and chat about some options. with loving compassion. jamie
dx, mdd, severe borderline personality disorder.
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