tired of being bullied

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Here I am
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   Posted 8/3/2009 8:35 PM (GMT -6)   
I am a grown woman, yet I still find myself being walked on, disrespected, and standing all by my lonesome.  I am always there and supportive for others, but when I need someone to have a voice for me, no one is there.....Im tired.

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   Posted 8/3/2009 10:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Here I Am,
Welcome to Healing Well! I'm not really sure what to suggest, but I just wanted you to know that you are always welcome to post here & we will be here "listening". I hope things start to get a bit better for you & that you find this to be a healing place. I know we have many wonderful, caring members here who have helped me a lot when I have felt down. I'm sure they will stop by before long to try to make you feel welcome.

take care & keep posting,
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   Posted 8/4/2009 2:25 AM (GMT -6)   
here i am, and i am here... hi and welcome to the hw depression forum. fully understand. am coping the same with my sis. apparently i am an A.T.M. i thought i was her human being brother!!! boundaries have been pushed well too far, thus you and me alike need to reset them!! thx for posting. with loving compassion. jamie.
dx, mdd, severe borderline personality disorder.

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   Posted 8/4/2009 9:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Here I am,

Welcome to HealingWEll. WE are so happy that you joined us. I am fifty years old and still go through that. Sometimes we are just around toxic people. Good people don't walk all over us. Maybe your friends are a tad selfish. Or they may just be use to you bieng the one that they go to for help. That must make you feel good to a point. But it might be time for you to make some changes, or let them know that you have problems too. Try to share with them. Letting them know that you often need somebody to listen to you. communication is the key.

I find that I think slow. But that keeps me from saying things that I regret. So this is not such a bad quality. You sound like a very good person and I wouldn't want you to change that.

With that being said, I hope that you are having a good day. Keep posting and know that we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 8/4/2009 2:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello, Here I Am.
I have always had a problem expressing my feelings to other people.  And when I am angry and upset I tend to "let it all out" because I keep things in for so long and explode.  Obviously, this is not a good thing and tends to get me in trouble as this is not appropriate.  Thus, sometimes I take out a diary and freewrite --I let all my feelings out.  I write everything I feel and would love to say and this way I can get my anger out of me and then put it down on paper.  I used to have a therapist that would say take it from here (my heart) and put it there (the paper).  By doing this I really get all the issues out and then I am able to say this constructively and appropriately to whomever I am dealing with.  Or, if I feel that I still cannot do that, I write a letter that appropriately explains my feelings and states how I would like things to change.
Since starting this practice I have considerably cut down on my meltdowns.  I'm still not perfect but I find this way is more effective and appropriate for me.  Perhaps you could consider this route for yourself as well?
Good Luck.  You sound like a caring person and just need to find a good way to get your own points across.
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