I am with you all the way on this one sweetie. The anniversary of my son's death is on August 12th so I too will be doing something special.
Here are things I try to do..................I have always picked out a special song each year and will take my CD player to the cemetery and play the song for him. I have let go balloons, and tied balloon boquets to his stone. I have put out little statues of angels, one for each of his nieces and nephew (7 total) He only had the chance to meet the oldest one as it will be 19 years since the car crash this year. I always bring flowers and often choose one dozen red roses................
I have taken my lunch and sat down in the grass and just shared with him how everyone is and of course I cry. I have taken pictures of family and laminated them and put them by his headstone.
I have also placed memorials in our local paper but do not do that much anymore as the years have past and now most of the time it is just my private memorials I do for him. He would have been 40 years old now if he had not died.
I feel what ever you choose to do will be the right thing for you and a wonderful tribute to your lady who left you way to soon.
Here is the song I picked for this year.