My name is David, I grew up in a home where my parents today are still together they are both approacing 60 years old. I met my wife when I was going through community college in California whe she was 18. We both became very attached, soon thereafter very phisically intimate. Things were beautiful in the near years to come. After she went to San Diego State University soon after she became pregnant with my oldest boy Isaac. Just like any other couple we faced financial hardship and the ocassional argument. We lived in her mother's home for a couple years where our space was reduced to a room and the family interactions. In 2004 I decided to relocate to Portland Oregon with the company I was working in California, I moved in mid 2004 and then went back to California to get my entire family. For close to a year I worked and we did start from zero having no beds or even table in our appartment, by then my second boy was already born he is now 4. Soon after we bought a home, our very own home and a lot of dreams started to build in our minds. I had expressed my then wife about
the posibility of quit working and set up a new business that would carry us over in hard economy times and once developed would be something we would have for our kids. In when my oldest boy was born I had suffered from Panic Attacks and very accute symptoms of depression. This time in Portland the effects were devastating, during the time our business was in operations which was about
1 year I spent countless hours by myself at the business because I could not afford to hire someone. During this time, we decided to send our kids to California with their grandma so we could work together and turn things arround financially. My ex-wife got two job while I wa working at the business. During this time my panic attacks became unbereable, medicated and with the business in my mind I started not listening to my wife, not to mention that we did not see each other the whole day until sometime between 10 and 11pm. At that point medicated and under the side effects could not effectively give my wife attention and she started growing appart from me. In July 2008 when she came from California came with an ultimatum for all of us to go back to California with her mom or else. The next day she had the divorce documents on the table.
Soon after she started talking to a friend my mine, first trying to investigate if I was seeing someone then the phone calls became regular on the daily basis without me being aware of what was going on. With my panic attacks and depression along with the business stress and finding out later she was having a phone relationship the effects on my menthal and phisicall health were devastating. In her mind she gave me the signs and I did not pick up on them, also said she could not and did not want to deal with my illness. During that time left the house and eventually went to my parents in Mexico. While in Mexico she filed for divorce and when I came back in February 7th I was already divorced.
I still love her and think she over-reacted, she says there was never more between her and my friend than a friendship but she is no longer inlove with me. We both believe being together is best for our kids and for ourselves buy she is no longer inlove with me. She often mentions her desire to go out, shows lack of interest of being with me, no longer displays attention for me. Ocassionally she does kiss me and is affectionate but the next day she displays a total frivolous behavior.
Should we keep trying?