karen, had a mate overstay his welcome. got back from the weekend away-lot of travel to get back, and within 5 minutes of me getting home his van turns into my driveway. bob was over too, yet i informed them both that i am tired and need some rest - i am having a early nite. steve would not budge. i had a shower to give him a hint, even had my tea, although he just sat their drinking his grog. at 20 to nine he finally left. 5 min before he said that he did not want to go home, i said you have one and you have been here long enough and that i really need to go to bed. thus i had a bad nite, i was overwhelmed by his repitition in conversation, loudness etc. migraines insued as did sleep disturbance.
today i have just made up a visiting time for everyone. it is structured, the times are specific and i noted that they are to be ahered to complicitly. it is in a water proof cover and will be stuck to my door. i need time to study, for me, for cleaning and for myself, thus the visiting timetable. ps. no prob with bob, he left early, and tried to hint to steve. a couple of weeks ago when i was very unwell bob reminded him to respect me by leaving at a reasonable time. yeah he has no real friend bar me, albeit i help him, but i am not his therapist.