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   Posted 8/10/2009 8:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Everyone,
I am new to this forum. I was diagnosed with severe depression in 2006. I was put on zoloft and wellbuiten(?). It seemed to work.
I was feeling better, but not doing much with my life. When I think about it, I feel like a big loser. I am 51 years old, in severe debt, and single. I feel unloved and unlovable (why would a woman want me?). Worse, I had a great upbringing and had the world at my feet but I blew it! Most of my friends have stayed employed, married, have children, etc while I can't hold a job, nor get involved in a relationship.
As I get older, I sense the chances of finding happiness are getting slim. If I cannot be happy, then why bother?
(I am rambling, I know).
Over time I stopped using the meds. I did some research and have been using omega-3. From what I read, omega-3 has a better affect than zoloft. However, the "bad thoughts" keep entering my mind.
I have been using the omega-3 for only 3 weeks. Is this long enough?
Should I go to a doctor and try zoloft and wellbuiten again?
Should I try different meds?

I need something not just to make me feel better, but something that gives me some get-up-and-go. Any suggestions?
Thank you,

getting by
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   Posted 8/10/2009 9:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jim,

If I were you, I would go back to the doctor and let him/her know how you feel. I am sure that there are many other medications that you can try. It took me many years to find the right meds for me. A lot of trial and error. But be patient, because you will find what is right for you.

I hope that you are feeling better soon. I would continue to take the fish oil too. Or the Omega fatty acids. They are very good for you. In addition to the meds too.

Best wishes, welcome to the forum.

Hugs, Karen

PS remember that you are NOT a failure...
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   Posted 8/10/2009 9:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Karen.
Its appreciated : )

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   Posted 8/11/2009 6:22 AM (GMT -6)   
speack to doc. ie other things may help too. meditation, etc. magnesium is exellent also. some alternatives may possibly be combined with a lower dose anti-dep? good luck jim. jamie.
dx, mdd, severe borderline personality disrder.

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   Posted 8/11/2009 6:42 AM (GMT -6)   

Maybe some wholistic treatments combined with a suitable level of meds?

Maz XX

P.S Karen is right: you are NOT a failure :-)

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   Posted 8/11/2009 9:10 AM (GMT -6)   

Hello and welcome to HealingWell.  I see you have met some of our great members and recieved some good advice.

I like Maz's suggestion re treating the "whole person".  I agree with the others and hope you do make an appointment with your physician for a tune up.

Meditation is a good way to work on overcoming your depression.  Here is a quick course in Meditation:

Choose a quiet spot where you will not be disturbed by other people or by the telephone.

Sit quietly in a comfortable position.

Eliminate distractions and interruptions during the period you'll be meditating.

Commit yourself to a specific length of time and try to stick to it.

Pick a focus word or short phrase that's firmly rooted in your personal belief system. A non-religious person might choose a neutral word like one, peace, or love. Others might use the opening words of a favorite prayer from their religion such as 'Hail Mary full of Grace', "I surrender all to you", "Hallelujah", "Om", etc.
Close your eyes. This makes it easy to concentrate.

Relax your muscles sequentially from head to feet. This helps to break the connection between stressful thoughts and a tense body.

Starting with your forehead, become aware of tension as you breathe in. Let go of any obvious tension as you breathe out.

Go through the rest of your body in this way, proceeding down through your eyes, jaws, neck, shoulders, arms, hands, chest, upper back, middle back and midriff, lower back, belly, pelvis, buttocks, thighs, calves, and feet.

Breathe slowly and naturally, repeating your focus word or phrase silently as you exhale.

Assume a passive attitude. Don't worry about how well you're doing. When other thoughts come to mind, simply say, "Oh, well," and gently return to the repetition.

Continue for 10 to 20 minutes. You may open your eyes to check the time, but do not use an alarm.

After you finish: Sit quietly for a minute or so, at first with your eyes closed and later with your eyes open.

Do not stand for one or two minutes.

Plan for a session once or twice a day.

Again a warm welcome to the Depression Forum and know you have friends here.

Take care,




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