dear tender of heart. hello, and welcome to the forum. i am jamie, male and 37. time for you to no longer be everyones support, cleaning, baby sitting, do whatever mum says person. you are an adult, and a human being-WITH REAL FEELINGS!!! my immediate suggestion is to join a support group and read some books on self-esteem and how to fight back.......nicely. there are plenty of ways to skin a cat!! time to reverse some roles.......try it.........see how they like it!! me i am a very compassionate man, and i am a little aggrieved at was is happening to you, as it happened to me, thus i am releasing my inner tiger to help you. no more yes person!! since this is has been going on awhile i think that something that will shock them is in order.......think outside the square.
yes i do not want you to take the magor hit of the explosion........if things urupt, but i do not want you imploding either. they have ASSUMED (everyone) that no is yes, and that if things go bad that i will get mum involved. this is your life.....people need not to assume, people need to ask, you are not being respected, thus you need to advise these people if you were me would you stand for this!! your health and your life is meant for enjoyment, consideration and respect. yes i agree with cheryl-counselling is important, and you are allowed to grieve in your own way and time. i lost my lady 3 + yrs ago, s@#t did i cry!!
furthermore how you live your life is your business, how you bring up your children as well. a thing to remember is that people have instilled in you how, what, when and why.......you do not do this to them...plus kids model what they see. you just need some good info, maybe a couple of sessions with a counsellor will give you some clear tools to help get you living your life. with loving compassion. jamie
ps admire your courage in seeking assistance and posting on this forum. you have done well. keep posting, we care.
dx, mdd, severe borderline personality disorder.