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   Posted 8/24/2009 10:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone. I am a 17 year old senior in high school. I get good grades, have friends and have a loving and supporting family. However, everything seems to be falling apart. I feel as if my life is completely shattering before my eyes. I am hardly ever happy and when i do put a smile on my face, its usually fake. I haven't talked to anyone about this. I am scared, I am lonely. I feel like I am alone and there is no one around at all. It is like I shouldn't be here and I don't belong. Please give me your advice.

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   Posted 8/24/2009 10:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Foreverloved,

Welcome to HealingWell. I think that you will find that you will be happy that you joined us.

17 is a hard age, there are many questions. Just know that you are a special person, and you do have a purpose, you will find it in time. You are at the age of many questions about your existance and what part that you play in the world. Try to live in the moment. Try not to worry so much about things, you are young and should be enjoying life. Study hard in school, learn as much as you can and the rest will fall into place.

There are always school counselors. They can help to give you some direction. Also support when you need. You among many others go through this phase, and yes it is a phase, a part of growing up. You are normal, and you will be happy.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 8/24/2009 11:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Heeja Forever,

Nice to meet you. I am a 19-year-old , so around your age. Just as Karen said, the time right after puberty is the time the great questions of the world can kick in and that can take its toll. Though in your case it could be rather different, so you feel free to tell more about yourself and what you are struggling with.

Talking helps. I am dead serious about this, it really helps. Whether it is to friend you trust, your family, or a counselor. I too have friends and a really supportive family, but not talking made it a lot worse. So please, find someone to talk to. Of course, you can talk to us, but the more the better.

Also, it could be a hormonal imbalance. In case you are unaware, we have certain hormones that trigger a feeling of happiness. In some individuals this system isn't working properly, so that could be the cause of your sad feelings as well. A doctor should be able to help you with that. In fact, seeing a doctor is a good start in any way, as he can show you where the support groups are, or advise you what to do.

You say you feel lonely. It is a common symptom of depression. Are you someone who ponders over that again and again? If so, I might be able to help you. But the lonely feeling would probably not go away without the help of others, as darkness won't go away without light. Let your friends be the light. It is hard to tell if someone is lonely, so the best way to let others know is to tell them. Than they will be able to help.

And Forever, remember that the most important isn't school, isn't money, isn't status. All of that we want because we think it will make us happy. I do think getting proper education will contribute towards your happiness, so if it is possible, study the best you can. However, if it makes you sad, don't do it. If something makes you feel real bad, try to find different ways around it. Hurting yourself is never the answer.

Take care my friend,

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   Posted 8/25/2009 12:41 AM (GMT -6)   
hi forever. just wanted to say hi and welcome you to the forum. some of the gang have given you some excellent info. keep posting as we care, okay. jamie.
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