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   Posted 8/30/2009 11:43 AM (GMT -6)   
My stomach is in knots.  I am dreading tomorrow.  I do not even want to go into work.  Yesterday our maintenance guy and I got into it.  I actually won but I am sure there will be hell to pay.  He came in to tell me a tenant's hot water heater had gone out.  He said he had to replace it but couldn't do it until he was able to get one of his guys to help him.  He got it working again but did not know how long it would work.  The tenant has several small children.  The apt. next door is empty but someone is moving in tomorrow.  The maintenance guy asked me for the keys to the vacant apt.  He said he was going to give a key to the tenant whose hot water heater was having problems.  He cornered me into giveing him the key.  I instantly regretted it.  He said it was for emergancies only.  I talked to him several times telling him I did not feel right, I did not want to lose my job or get into trouble.  He said none of that would happen.  He then said he was keeping the key, not giving it to the tenant, then he was going to give it back, then he said he was not going to give it back.  In my opinion, noone should have a key to another apt. even if empty.  I finally called him and said the new tenant was coming over to pay their deposit and he said so, if they have not paid the rent, they don't a key which is true.  I finally called him one last time and said I wanted the key back.  He went off and asked me what if the tenant next door needed to get hot water, what were they suppose to do, and then immediately said, forget it, I will bring the g** d*** key back.  He came in (fortunately I had someone in there talking to me) and threw the key on my desk and said in a snotty you go and walked out.  I know he is going to jump on me tomorrow.  He feels that if a tenants hot water goes out, we should help them out and let them have a key to a vacant apt.  I do not want to say anything to the owners because they will jump all over him and that will make things worse.  I can't work under these circumstances.  He believes he is in charge out there.  He has even told that to tenants.  I feel like he is bullying me.
Thanks for listening.

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 8/30/2009 2:38:58 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 8/30/2009 12:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Chelsie,

I think that the tenants can heat water until they get a new hot water heater. So I wouldn't worry about it too much. I know that you don't like conflict, but I don't think you are going to have anymore. You stood your ground and that is that. I don't think he will try to bully you or give you a hard time anymore. I think he sees that you are able to stand your ground and will back down. Who cares if the tenants think he is the boss. There is no boss in this situation. Just keep doing what you are doing. You are doing a good job.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 8/30/2009 3:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey there, I am sorry you are in a conflict situation.  Remind me have you been dx with depression?  This problem sounds like more of an anxiety problem and you may want to post in that forum as the members deal daily with anxiety and conflict.
I think I remember you running into conflict with this same person before.  mad
Perhaps some tips in assertivenss from the members with anxiety would help you.
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