theripsts dont seem to grasp this

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   Posted 9/2/2009 9:57 AM (GMT -6)   
When a person have had a happy life and then fell into a depression, they have something to reference to in getting back to a happier state of mind through therapy help.  on the other hand, if a person like myself who lived a lifetime of depression, in a unhappy state of mind, one giant lifetime  twlight zone episode,  there is nothing to get back too.  no happy times except moments that can be remembered.  how can a person like this be helped?   i have always been a introvert.  not shy, just cant talk to people in a conversation.  my conversation level is only joking around type.  the paxil i am taking only helps to a small degree in not feeling really bad in the mind but i still feel totaly crappy about everything.  
i`m just looking for others thoughts on the matter.

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   Posted 9/2/2009 11:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi gnileah,

Welcome to HealinWell and the depression forum.

Often we feel bad for so long that we don't even know what it is like to feel good. It sounds like this in your case. I wonder if the doc should up your medication or even change it. Stress the fact that you don't feel good. There are so many AD's out there that I am sure they can find something to help you.

It sounds like you keep yourself pretty much isolated. Maybe you are afraid to have conversations with people. Maybe you should try to. There are a lot of wonderful people in this world, you need to find somebody that you click with to talk to.

What do you do for recreation? Perhaps you could meet somebody with the same interests as you.

Either way I am glad that you found us. It is easier to talk to people who understand what you are going through. I feel that the joking around is your way of communicating. So that isn't so bad. But I feel you need to get on another level with people. That takes time. So don't be hard on yourself for that. Keep trying, take life one day at a time and try to live in the moment.

We are here to support you. So feel free to keep posting.

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   Posted 9/2/2009 11:57 AM (GMT -6)   
I think at least defining (if not finding) what you would like to be your new normal (especially since the old normal was not good) to be is a good idea. At least a step in the right direction.
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   Posted 9/3/2009 5:02 AM (GMT -6)   
agree with mmmnavy, a new focus to doing things, a new approach to things that are awkward, also keep talking with your doc, maybe a new medication or increase is warranted? combined with therapy things do improve. it is sometimes a slow process, but with improvement, more tools, confidenc eand practice you will find a happier place within yourself and the world. peace to you.
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