I am 16 years old. Me and my girlfriend have been dating nine months and 11 days.
We have had those ups and downs everyone has in a relationship. but this time i feel like she is cheating. I while back, during the summer i went on a vacation and messed up. i didn't talk to her. I don't know why, it was a big mistake and i will never be able to forgive myself. but she said she got over it. I still apologize for it. she says don't worry about it. we have our "relationship rules" like no cheating, no talking to the opposite sex. We have had a very strong relationship. our families like each other. every time i make a mistake or do one little thing wrong, for example. talk on the phone until 3:00 am in the morning and fall asleep on the phone because i woke up early to go over to her house @ 6:00 am in the morning. she would get mad and say forget it and tell me to just go to bed. but i don't want her to go to bed angry with me. it just leaves her for the next day to turn out bad. So, for the past week she has been telling me that her grandma is dying, her mom is yelling at her constantly, her dad had surgery and isn't working right now he just sits around and argues with his wife and my girlfriend. She told me that if she gets to stressed out she just drops everything and says screw it to everything. like she would drop what she is doing and just forget about all of what she was doing and basically leave everyone out of her life and restart. which is depressing because i want to help her get threw the hard times she is going threw. but she insists on it being her way. so she broke up with me and said were only taking a brake. so first off she says she just doesn't even want to talk to me or see me for 3 days. I am so attached to her that even if she thinks of braking up with me or talks about leaving me, i start to bawl. i can't help it. i try not to i just love her so much. she says if i love her that i will understand that she needs her space and i should know that she will be back with me. for the past 2 days. she has been jogging for about 2 hours each day. which she never does which i find very odd. she told her mom that she's going running to get a tan. and all throughout our relationship she said she would never tan its bad for your skin. and now she goes jogging to a tanning salon. i think that she is talking to another guy that told her she would look nice with a darker skin tone. so she goes and does it. she doesn't tell me anything she does. i try so hard to keep her i just don't know how to make her stay happy. i ask her if she is happy with me. she tells me "yes, but for right now... i just don't want to go out with you" i look away, and then she says "just for now, i still want to be with you, i've told you a thousand times, that i just need my space" i tell her i know and i'm sorry. i tell her that i just miss her so much and would do anything to hold her and call her mine.
in my past experiences with relationships, first they say i just need a brake. then when there on the "break" they start talking to another guy to see if they can get a better boyfriend. i have never cheated, lied, or wronged her in any way possible. I've been raised from good parents. i have had many of bad things that have happened in my life. i had horrible family issues, friend issues. and close to suicide attempts. i've gone to counseling and it helped allot. then when me and my girlfriend were going steady i quit going. and i was fine then on. now i have many signs of bad depression again. it runs in my family. we all have it. she is always going off with her "friends" and hanging out with them. i called her house phone(she doesn't have a cell) her mom answered and said that she was with her friend. i called her friend and said they weren't hanging out today. i called back and my girlfriend answered. and i said where were you. and she replied saying she was taking a shower. i called back later and talked to her mom and said that she did leave and didn't tell anyone where she was going. she just left. Ive gone by her house there isn't anything odd happening, like no cars i don't recognize or anything like that. i just seems when I'm gone nothings happening. that's why i ask if its just me. she has always been Loyal to me and so have i. i just don't understand if she is or not.
Thanks for reading,
If anyone has some similar type of thing they have done and what the outcome was. please contact me.
if this has happened to you also contact me.
Post Edited (MichaelD93) : 9/10/2009 5:51:52 PM (GMT-6)