> I know anybody reading this feels we are maybe just not meant to be together because of all this infidelity, but we truly do love each other and have been victims
Hello, savingrace (SG from here on, to save time).
I am Bill, the Thinker From Iowa. I saw that you are a new member. I am new myself; I just joined a few days ago, and this is my first posting. But I wanted to send a reply to you.
First of all, if two people truly love each other, then they belong together. What's done is done, and it does no good to either you, hubby, or the kids to keep dredging up the past. Look at each new day and each hour and minute of that new day as an opportunity to work towards your wholeness and that of your family. Many times, I have heard the talk about
the new day, week, month, year, etc., being a blank sheet of paper waiting to be written on. That is what you have.
One thing that I think would be a big help is for you and your husband to renew your wedding vows to each other. You don't need a minister, priest, or judge to do this. Every family has one special place that has meaning for them. Take the kids with you and let them be a part of your renewal. In fact, make a vow to be together and work for the future as a family while you're at it. Whether your teen-ager wants to admit it or not, he/she needs BOTH of you more than he/she might want to admit. And your 7-year-old ABSOLUTELY needs both Mom AND Dad. So vowing to be there for each other as a family might be a good way to begin the building of your future as a family.
Just one more thing -- don't beat yourself up over what happened. Let your focus be on being the best wife and mother that you can be, by the grace of God.
Don't forget, SG, that according to the old saying, the darkest hour is right before the dawn. I truly believe that. Keep us all informed as to how you are doing. You have a lot of good people in your corner.
Bill The Thinker From Iowa
Bill, Sorry for the edit:
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Limited religious references are allowed (ie. "my prayers are with you" or a brief quote as part of a larger post)
Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 9/21/2009 7:16:06 AM (GMT-6)