You should do things because you want to. Without feeling that you are doing it because you want her to like you. She should love you, she is your wife. I am glad that you are seeing a doctor and a psychologist soon. Make sure to be up front and talk about the things that you talked about here. Maybe you could print out this thread. Carry it with you. That would probably really help. You should feel good about helping your wife, especially if she needs the help. Or maybe I should say for the family. And if you have the extra energy, that is great. But if she really is making coments about you would do anything she asked in a snide way, that hurts you, that is not good.
I hope that things work out for you. Hang in there.
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies