Welcome to the HealingWell depression forum. I am so glad that you have joined us.
I would think that the best thing for you right now would be to start counseling. You need the extra support right now. It is hard dealing with your own depression, and you have your husband to deal with right now. That is a lot. I strongly recommend counseling for you. Take care of you and the rest will be easier to handle.
How long is your sil coming for in November? You are going to have to ignore her for the most part, but don't let her walk all over you either. She doesn't have a clue as to what is going on between you and your husband. You know and that is what matters. You work hard all day, you don't need to be waiting on him when you get home. He can take care of himself. You can be there to support him, but he needs to learn to cope. Is he going to any counseling right now? Do they know he is still struggling?
I hope that this helps some. I highly recommend counseling and maybe seeing a pdoc too. I see both and it has really helped me.
Take care, best wishes for a wonderful day.
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies