Losing a relationship and gaining a son (soon to be born)

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   Posted 11/1/2009 7:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Recently i have lost a relationship in August. Several times we split mainly of pressures from the pregnancy and our family issues. I have felt completely distraught since the split and forever trying my hardest to move on e.g. joining a football team, upping the hours at work etc. I just feel im at a point where i feel no matter what i do with my friends/family, it only ever temporarily takes the thoughts away from my mind. I do suffer from Depression and have done so for some period of time. I also work as a psychic medium and that does tend to have an effect sometimes.
Almost everyday i feel like im angry at how the relationship has turned out . I feel stupid and angry at myself for how i persistently got my parent involved to deal with my problems . I am 21 years old and do feel i'm to take the blame for what has happened. We had paid for a conversion of a garage into a bedroom to be made in my mum's home for my previous partner to move in. I was excited at the thought of her being with me for the future.
After a short period of time , particularly after her birthday we began to have series of arguments throughout the year and had split up 4 times. I had wondered what was going wrong so many times and felt i was at fault. I am not looking for pity or anything. I just feel at some point i just want to be rescued from this horrid darkness and helped to have some kind of support and aid me to be a good dad.
I have no doubt i will try my utmost best to be a decent dad, but how can i if i'm currently a emotional wreck over current affairs where my previous partner doesn't seem to ask how i am or anything!. I just got mixed feelings all over the place and trying my best to be positive. It takes huge amount of strength to cope with the mess i am in at the moment.
Can anyone help ?

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   Posted 11/1/2009 8:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Ed,
And welcome to the HealingWell depression forum.
I am a firm believer that if you put your son's best interest at heart, the rest will fall into place.  Always think of your son before you do yourself.  I know that you would like to have a relationship, or get over the one you were just in.  But I have to say, take care of your son first.  Be unselfish in this department.  Honestly, the rest will fall into place.  He may be the one to keep you going.
Best wishes for a wonderful day.
Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 11/1/2009 9:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Ed,

I'm sorry the relationship didn't work out. In such an emotional situation, it's no wonder you're confused and frustrated. Time will help sort this out, and you could always help time a little by seeing a counselor. Karen is absolutely right, that if you put your son's best interests first, you will be a good father.

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