Thanks so much, Navy,
It never bothers me about others having nicknames - I was in a lawsuit and on a site that helped me extremely, but I NEEDED to remain anonymous as they found every other site I'd been on.
I seem to remember your name when I was on way back when I started. I don't recall your ever using those words to me and, if I knew you well enough on line to know your intentions it wouldn't bother me at all.
Just happen to be hypersesitive and hypervigilent (and even a little argumentive these days, even mainly about upholding fairness, sticking up for bullies, the law - everything. Highly emotional these days because of recent events that have occurred.
For understanding purposes (I hope): These types of referals written to me are equivolent to a cerain tone that I am very, very hyersensitive about from past trauma.
If you are indeed a servceman/woman, retired or still serving - THANK YOU for your service to the United States of America, you are quadruply appreciated!!
And your understanding of my dilemma is appreciated.
There is no blame here on anyone, just wanted to say it up front that this is how I am and I
do get triggered by these and similar words unless I know someone really well.
I wrote to one of the moderators after receiving 2 responses to another sensitive post - 2 out of three having these words and one being a moderator, but the moderatr I wrote to never got back to me about it, so I'm just posting this because this site is truly invaluable to me and I want to keep coming here w/out feeling these awful triggers - just some of which I'm trying to get away from.
Post Edited (Naps With Cats) : 11/15/2009 9:24:08 AM (GMT-7)