As we get older, the things that happened in the past, mean a lot less to us. They were traumatic at the time, and will seem to be for some time later, but eventually they have not much to do with what is going on in your life. I guess that goes with the saying that time heals all wounds. It does.
But that doesn't mean that it isn't going to effect you now, it can. But try not to let it. Try not to dwell on it, and don't expect you're going to be in the same situation as you were before. Because it doesn't always happen that way. But if you think it is going to, you will find simularities one way or another. Enjoy your life. You sound like a bright lady. Don't let the past bring you down. It is over now. Things are better.
PS Welcome to the forum...
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