Teenage Depression....hopeless and clueless.

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Date Joined Nov 2009
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   Posted 11/20/2009 4:25 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm brand new to this whole thing but I just needed to find a way to talk to others in my position and try to sort all of this out.
I'm 17 and was diagnosed with depression about a month ago, I've tried talking to my mum about it but we don't exactly have the best relationship and she doesn't seem to believe that I'm depressed or that depression is a proper illness.
She claims that I can't be depressed because I "sing to music in my bedroom" however my college grades and attendance are progressively getting worse. I can't talk to her about anything and I haven't been back to see my doctor to discuss what to do about my depression because I'm too scared of my mum finding out.
I'm incredibly low at the moment and feel like I have nobody to talk to about this because I just feel like I'm rambling on and I don't want to make them feel low as a result!
Any help would be much appreciated!

Post Edited (Bridgemidge) : 11/20/2009 3:07:23 PM (GMT-7)

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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 11/20/2009 6:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Bridge,

I'm glad you found us here at HW. That must be so hard to not have your mother's support right now. I'm curious to know how you were diagnosed with depression and am surprised your doctor did not refer you to a counselor or nurse practitioner to follow up with you on treating your depression. Is there a counselor you can talk with at school? Many colleges have counseling programs for students and are very good at helping you meet your academic goals. You can ask them about their confidentiality policy if you are concerned about that. My university's policy is that parents cannot access student files unless the student signs a document stating that they can. Some options a counselor may be suggest may be continuing with regular psychological therapy sessions and/or anti-depressant medication. Check back and let us know what you find out, OK?

Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it. -Tori Amos

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Date Joined Nov 2009
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   Posted 11/20/2009 7:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for your help :)
My doctor discussed a few of the possible options with me and told me to think about what I want to do and to come back in a couple of weeks to confirm everything. The thing is, I haven't been back. The way my mum reacted even had me doubting what was wrong with me but I realised that the way that I'm feeling is definitely not normal. I've just been so reluctant to go back because I know that my mum will dismiss it all completely.
I've spoken to my form tutor at college but nobody appears to be taking it seriously, I'll definitely look further into it though.

Thank you again, it's nice to know that somebody understands.

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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 11/20/2009 8:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Bridge,
I know exactly how you feel. My senior yr of HS/fr year of college was when I really started feeling depressed. Its a hard time in everyones life and everyone deals with it differently.
Heres what I did: 3 weeks into 1st year of college I met a wonderful woman at my school who happened to be a counselor in the counseling center. Luckily, we hit it off right away and to this day I am incredibly close with her still. I didn't tell my parents I was going to see her and my mom and I have never had a close open relationship. I love her, but its just not the nature of our relationship to talk about things like that.
When I was ready to go to outside therapy I had no choice but to tell my mom b/c of insurance. I was scared, but it turned out ok. We never talked about it and she never mentioned it, but she understood that I was just getting help and doing fine.

My parents, whenever they think of "depression" they think suicide. Not the case. I think thats why they freaked out a little. But in time, things got better. I felt better about myself, starting dating my boyfriend and did extremely well in school. For a while I wasn't doing too well, but with the guidance and support of my school counselor that I still regularly saw, I got through it. You'll be surprisd how many people care about you and are here to support you.

Your mom just needs to understand that you just want to help yourself. You want to feel happier and better about life so you can bring up your grades and enjoy each and every day. Reassure here that therapy is completely worth it. Look how many people are on these boards that support one another every single day!! If you feel you need to vent, just come on here. Everyone here has experience. Best of luck.

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   Posted 11/20/2009 9:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Bridge,
Welcome to healing well.  I am so glad that you have joined us.  Here are a few online sites that you might find helpful.  And keep posting and let us know what is going on.  We are here for you.
I hope that you find some of these useful.  And again, let us know how you are doing.  Don't be afraid to try to help yourself.  That is all that you are doing and there is nothing wrong with that.
Take care,
Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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