any depressed adoptees know how to cope?

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lovers spit
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Date Joined Nov 2009
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   Posted 11/23/2009 4:14 PM (GMT -6)   
I've been feeling extremely down lately.  I have major depression and I take medication for it.  I'm not very close to my adoptive family.  I've been with them since I was a month- foster care with them up until 6 years of age and then they adopted me at 6.  My sister was always the one to watch over me.  She was the one I went to for EVERYTHING.  I now live with her, at 17, she is 31 now and she is completely different from what I remember her to be.  I live with her, her husband and their baby (my neice).  Although I love them all, it's so hard because I feel as if their daughter has replaced me.  My sister used to be very affectionate towards me when I was younger but no longer is. At the hospital about a month or so ago, they told me I haven't "identified" with my adoptive family. My pyschologist however told me this isn't true and it's just that I'm not close with them. Either way it hurts and I'm interested in meeting my biological family except I don't know if that's such a good idea since they probably aren't very stable.  Both of my bio parents have bipolar, my father is listed as deceased.  This really hurt me since my adoptive father was never much of a father to me.  He's an alcoholic and he has bad brain damage from a car accident. I just feel so unwanted. I don't know if I'm even allowed to say this but I recently lost my virginity and I feel like there's nothing left of me. I just want to feel happy again.

Post Edited (lovers spit) : 11/23/2009 3:04:24 PM (GMT-7)

getting by
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   Posted 11/23/2009 6:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

Welcome to the forum Loverspit. It sounds like you are going throught a lot of emotions right now. I would like to say to slow down and take things one day at a time. Don't rush into anything. And try not to assume things. Like that you are being replaced by your niece. I am sure that your sister has enough love to go around. But remember with a new baby, there is a lot for her to do. Maybe she is just getting tired. So try not to read into things. I am sure that she loves you very much.

I wouldn't rush into meeting your biological mother until you have sorted out these issues that you are going through. And remember she may have had some issues of her own as to why she gave you up for addoption. This could get quite confusing for you. So take it slow.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. Feel free to come here at any time. I am going to post some sites for depressed teens here soon. You might want to take advantage of them.

Take care.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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