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Date Joined Nov 2009
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   Posted 11/26/2009 4:51 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm 19 and i'm constantly feeling low.
I hate my job and am currently feeling paranoid and scared of gettin into trouble with the managers there. Now its such an effort even going to bed the night before work because I know what I'll be waking up for...
My mum announced to me this week that she is leaving my dad because basically he doesn't care anymore...and he didnt fight to stop her leaving..
Ive just moved in with my boyfriend and i feel like i cant face going to work, then i cant face coming home from work in case theres a mess etc and i cant face it.
I currently have a week off work and I cant stand being alone in the house... i feel lonely, and rejected and like i cant face doing anything.
I have asked my boyfriend for a puppy, something to love that loves me back ,and when im alone i wont feel lonely...
but he said no, so thats that.
I'm sorry for moaning so much...
I just wanted to get some of it off my chest.
Thank you.

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Date Joined Jul 2005
Total Posts : 12014
   Posted 11/26/2009 8:19 PM (GMT -6)   
JD, I don't know your history, so don't know if you are clinically depressed (a condition that is chronic and requires medication) or if you are suffering from situational depression.  If it's the first or you've felt this way before or for some time, then some professional help should be considered.  There are clinics that you can go to that charge on a sliding scale, based on income, if money is a problem.  However, if it's more situational depression, one technique that works is to make a Gratitude List.  Start listing every single thing you have to be grateful for.  You may not like your job, but at least you have one.  Thousands upon thousands are out of work now and don't know where their next dollar is coming from.  Be grateful for your job.  You are alive and I'm assuming physically healthy.  You have a b.f., so someone cares about you.  You have parents and I'm sure they love you.  Do you have friends?  Food in the fridge?  Clothes on your back?  A bed to sleep in?  Just these very basic things you can be grateful for, as there are so many people in the world who do not have those.  I guarantee you that once you start listing things, you will think of others and you wil feel a whole lot better by the time your list is finished.   wink     This technique can even help those who are clinically depressed, as it changes your focus from what is wrong in your life to what is right.
Big hugs,

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