omg life is so hard

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Date Joined Dec 2009
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   Posted 12/20/2009 1:57 AM (GMT -6)   
ok so ive never done this before so i thought i would give it a try... ive had a really crapy life and am depressed about it. you see my dad has been a drug addect my entire life. he was verry abusive and would hit my mom. they just recently got divorsed. i knew my dad had issues but i always thought he loved me. but he dosnt. he took away his parenting rights and hasnt talked to me sence. i fell so abandoned by him. i was always daddys little girl. now hes 35 and married to a 21 year old and now has a son with her. i think i should hate him but i dont. i cant hate him. but now i live with my mom and things are hard. we live pay check to paycheck and i dont know what to do. my mom works two jobs and is going to school full time. shes forcing me to raise my 9 year old brother. im 13. but no one knows how much it upsets me. everyone thinks im perfect. im the head cheerleader im in band and TSA and yearbook and in GEMS and im in all honors classes and make straight A's and i run track and cross country. everyone thinks im perfect. i try to be strong. i try not to break under the pressure but its hard and i dont have anyone to talk to. please help.

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   Posted 12/20/2009 10:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cheergirl,
Welcome to the forum.  You sound like a very nice person.  But going through a lot right now.  You are accomplishing a lot for age 13.  I was totally different at that age. 
The best advice that I can give you is to take life one day at a time and to just do the best that you can.  You are practically raising your little brother.  And I have a feeling that you just do things and don't complain much.  You are intelligent and very kind for your age.  You are taking over and helping your mom, you should be proud of yourself.  I am proud of you and I don't even know you.  I am glad that you help so much at home.  I know it is hard but it will be worth it.  When your mom finishes what she is doing, things will turn around and be easier for you. 
There are a few sites for teens that I am going to post for you that could help you out.  Otherwise I would talk to a school counselor if you are feeling too much pressure.  Life itself is not easy.  You are learning a lot right now which will benifit you in the future. 
I hope that these sites will help you.  You sound like a really nice person, and I hope things get a little easier for you.  But you do have a lot of wonderful goals.  Talking to a school counselor will help you to cope.  Maybe you might have to cut back on some things, but the more that you do, the stronger that you get.
Best wishes to you.
Hugs, Karen
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