Welcome to the HealingWell depression forum. There are a lot of people here who understand what you are going through. The best thing that I can advise is to start working on you. And whether your relationship will continue or not, I am not sure.
It takes a good four to six weeks for your medication to reach it's full effect, though you could start feeling better shorter. Generally the side effects leave within a couple of weeks, though I never got the side effects until I was into a month or two in taking the medication. It is an on going process. I would take it one day at a time if I were you.
Your wife doesn't sound too compassionate about your situation. I didn't like reading what she said about people feeling sorry for you and blaming her. That should be the least of her worries. People can't blame other people for their moods, they own them themselves. So it isn't her fault or your fault, it is just something that has happened. Black and white, not gray areas.
Work on getting better, put yourself first when it comes to that. Whether or not she will stick by you remains to be seen.
I hope that you feel better soon.
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