Well said Ralph !
(BTW, that's the first properly spelled post I've ever seen - are you dyslexic too ? )
Hope this neighbour doesn't give any more trouble DAL, if he abuses his girlfriend he might be the kind of guy who just dances on any sort of weakness he can see in a lady rather than protecting vulnerable women as should be; phoning the cops unnecessarily is on a par with that type of behaviour. The sort of guy who is really nice until you're "his" and then he won't let you out of his sight until he tires of hitting you...
I can see why you were annoyed at joeboot. I went to a rather notorious bar the other night, to a friend's leaving party, got chatting to a pretty girl... people who saw me with her the next day might have jumped to conclusions. But neither of us frequent that meat market, or do drugs, neither of us go out much (my second bar this year ! ) and although she came to see me next day, that's as far as it went. If a total stranger suggested otherwise to me, I'd ask, why do you assume the worst of me ?
But for all that I would not condone his assumptions or his approach, I can see where joeboot was coming from. (And for all his clumsiness, he did think you are "wonderful and beautiful" - so can he be all bad ? ) Once you start seeing all the bad things, and expecting them to happen to you, it is almost as if you are programming your life to work that way. Not that you want it to - just that the people around you do respond to your expectations of what is going to happen, and seeing the negative side of things makes it enormously hard to see any advantage to a situation, so you are not able to make lemonade out of the lemons.
The hardest thing I ever did was learn how to do circumstantial judo, and I'm afraid I can't even tell you how I learned. The hard way, knowing me !
I wish I could tell you how to get out of this hole you're in - I remember vividly what hell it was to feel that way, I remember the desperation and the awful dread of facing each new day - but all I can say is, life is a numbers game, at some point it has to improve even if only by chance !
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