First of all, welcome to the forum. I think that you will be glad that you came here. Everybody is so understanding and there is no judging going on here. We are all going through similar situations, so we do understand.
I don't think it is unfair of you to want to keep your lives private, after all it is your marriage. I wouldn't want my inlaws to know about our fights either. Does this mean that everytime you two get in a fight, he goes to his parents and tells them about it? That would bother me too. I think your fights are between the two of you and that is where it should remain, unless both parties want to share. Then you lay it all out for all to see. But no, I would not want something like that.
Are you going to any counseling at this point? I would recommend it, maybe even couples counseling if you think it needs be. But a counselor would teach you how to stand up for yourself in these situations and how to deal with lifes situations with your husband. Also how to affirmate your feelings so that you can explain to him how you feel about the whole family knowing what is going on.
I hope that you find some help soon. Let us know how things are going.
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