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   Posted 2/9/2010 2:38 AM (GMT -6)   
i am 15 and my mother has been saying really hurtful things to me for a while. I have been trying to stay strong and act like it doesnt bother me but it really truly is. My parents got divorced when i was 2 and the my mom remarried & is now getting divorced again. My real father lives in georgia and remarried & is now also recently divorced again. As you can see this is just a short version of what i have been going through and meanwhile im trying to be strong for my little brother. Anyways i really dont know what to do my mother is being so hurtful to me & has been for a while... its really getting to me now... please help me.

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   Posted 2/9/2010 6:42 AM (GMT -6)   
your mum may be upset herself about going through another divorce - you should stay strong for her - she might not like expressing her true feelings in front of you - for example she might not want you to see her cry...
my mum used to say horrible things to me sometimes and it would make me upset but i have learnt now that in the end she is my mum - you only have one of them
try not to take her comments too personally - i am sure that she doesnt mean them directly at you

all the best

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   Posted 2/9/2010 9:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lexicohen,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am sorry that your mom is being mean to you and saying hurtful things. But as Emily said, she is probably stressed over her situation. Plus we always tend to hurt the ones that we love. This could be the situation here.

My mother and I didn't get along, she was very jealous of me. And that really hurt, because we tend to look up to our moms and having hateful things coming out of her mouth really threw me for a loop. And it was something I didn't understand at the time. Plus being she was an authority figure to me, it was hard to comprehend for me.

Maybe if you sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel, things might change. That might be a good idea for you to do. Also praying for her might help. If you have faith in that. But I would let her know that she is hurting you.

Oh by the way, welcome to the forum. You have really come to a good place where everybody is kind and compassionate. We are here to support you through this. I am so glad that you posted.

With that being said, I hope that you have a good day my friend. Keep posting and let us know what is going on.

Best wishes to you.

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   Posted 2/10/2010 11:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi honey,

Can you tell me what kind of hurtful things she has been saying? You know sometimes we don't realize what we say. My mom used to be real mean like that and hit me, but she didnt know she was. She knew something was wrong but didnt know what. Finally we found out it was a problem with her thyroid. It gave her mood swings, and she wouldnt remember her mood switches. Also, my sister has threatened to kill me and beat me up once. So I'm thinking maybe she doesnt realize it. Maybe you can start helping around the house more and say things like "I love you mom" and give her a hug more. She may need reassured that someone loves her. You do need to stay strong for her and your brother.
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