I don't think that any of us know what 'normal' is really. You just have to take life one day at a time and deal with it that way. It isn't always easy, and yes, it does take time. We learn as we go. One day at a time...
I use to spend so much time thinking, that I wasn't living. Now I don't think so much. I just take things as they come and it is a lot easier for me that way. I can't remember the last time I unnecessarily worried about
something, and I did that all the time before.
Just deal with one thing at a time. Take the time to work on what is on your plate at that moment. Write the other stuff down and worry about
it when you get to it. By writing it down, you are storing it. Such as, you said, people don't listen. Well, listen to yourself. Others worry about
themselves. They are not required to listen to us. But we can listen to us. If you have a problem, write it down with the other things that you write down. Store it in a safe place, and when it is time to deal with it, do so, and then cross it off of the list. This teaches us to be in the here and now. Then we are only focussing on one thing at a time. You learn to problem solve and then you are living life. Try to accomplish one thing a day. I know that it isn't easy and your energy level isn't up to par. Do you walk? Try taking a walk each day. No matter how short or long. Notice everything around you. Listen to the noises, look at the sights. Say hello to people if you see them. Even if you only go for five minutes. When you are done, write it down. Write down what you remember about
that walk. And think of it as something accomplished. Reward yourself with something. Or take a rest. Then move on to the next thing on your list.
Another thing that helps is meditation. It calms and centers you. There is so much that you can do for yourself that doesn't take medications or counseling, though I highly recommend both. But you can work on your own too.
I hope that things work out for you and your wife. I hope that you guys can connect and that things will be good for you both.
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies