Hi everyone, I need help. 17 yrs. ago I was accused of things I did not do, and as a result I was forced to sign away parental rights to my son. The allegations against me were untrue and unfounded brought on by my ex-girlfriends parents. I believe this was done to silence me. You see, when we were together she told me that when her and her brother (she was adopted), that when she was in her teens, they were playing cards and he made her play strip poker, afterwards he forced himself on her. She told her mom about it and all her mom did was by her a home pregnancy kit and sweep it under the rug, never to be mentioned again. Along I come years later and when she told me, I told her she could still persue legal action. So one day, my ex is giving her oldest son a bath and he say's "can daddy suck my peanut", which never happened. So her parents heard about it and contacted DCFS about. Well here I was facing those charges, making no real money at the time and working (yeah right) with a public defender. My ex's dad was a High ranking exec at GM and could afford any lawyer he wanted. I was never told the options I had in front of me. All I was told was that I could either face charges or sign away rights. I was willing to fight tooth and nail, but the PD wasn't. Anything and everything I told him was brushed off as inadmissible in court. So I didn't think I had a choice. Fast forward to 2010. I was looking around online and found information on My sons older brother and sister and I found him but he is still a minor, so I emailed his adopted dad. Here is how the email exchange went.
Hello, this is in regard to J. You need to be aware I am his biological father. I have spent years in search of him. I ask you, have you told him of me.I do want to see him and talk to him. I want you to know, signing the paper for adoption wasn't my choice. I was coerced through no fault of my own. I would appreciate your support in this. I am waiting for your support and response, we can talk by phone as well.
Yes, we are aware of who you are. We respectfully ask that you cease all efforts to make contact with the children. J has said he desires no contact with you. The State of indicated that you abused these children. I strongly suggest you stop all attempts or we will have no recourse but to let the State know. J is still a minor and you are forbidden to make contact with him. Our understanding was you were “coerced” to sign off or face jail time for child abuse. We are frankly shocked that you were dare attempt contact after what you did to the children.
Now after that exchange I feel all hope is gone. Everything I used to enjoy just brings me down now. after reading that reply it felt like a knife to the chest again. I don't really eat and really just want to die. My own son doesn't even want to know me. Well thanks for reading my story. Any help and advice is appreciated.