am I too old to feel this way?

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danny davis
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   Posted 3/1/2010 4:33 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm new here and I feel so guilty reading comments from kids who so young, that feel as depressed as I do and when I read of the recent suicides of some these famous kids, my heart just aches inside. I'm 50 years old and I feel I should know better and not feel as hopeless as I do and I feel so guilty, so guilty because I feel I don't have a right to feel so bad. My kids are all grown and okay, my husband loves me, but doesn't know how to handle my sadness....I have been crying, it seems for the last 50 years. I know in my heart, that I am just a decision away from ending all this, because I am just tired of the guilt. How dare I, who have lived my life, made both good and bad choices, how dare I compare my saddness to a young person who needs more sympathy than I can ever imagine? I'm just a looser and I should be ashamed of myself.

So far, we've lost our home, our jobs, our savings, our car....I'm living with my elderly parents who truly don't want us here, but where can we go...but we have our health, right? This is just tooo much to much.....

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 3/1/2010 3:46:00 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 3/1/2010 4:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Depression knows no age. I am having difficulties myself; I'm 46. Just different problems at our age. You are going through very hard times. See if you can't find one or two positives in your life, something that might make it seem worthwhile. I hope that you have a good therapist to talk things over with. Also, the right medicine can really change your life.
Stay strong!


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   Posted 3/1/2010 5:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

Welcome to the healinwell depression forum. As was posted above, depression has no age preference. And what you are going through would make anybody depressed. I am sorry for all of your losses. It is difficult right now. And it is also a hard time of the year for everybody. I am seeing a lot more depressed people than I have seen in a while. And yes, a lot of them are teens. I too think about it. I had my moments in my much younger years. Where I just didn't care. What is wrong with me, what is the meaning to life. I understand the pain. And those are the years that we feel should be enjoyed, as you are just growing up. I am 51 and finally have found the right med combo to help me. And a new state of mind. I live my life one day at a time and do not worry about the future or the past. That is all that I can do anymore. But it is a relief too. As they say, don't sweat the small stuff, and it is now all small stuff. I can't handle it, so I don't. I do take care of my responsiblities. But then it is done. Don't give up, things will come around. Keep posting and know that we all care about you here and if nothing else, it is a good place to vent.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 3/1/2010 5:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi and so sorry things seem so awful right now...have you sought professional help for how you feel? You deserve to feel better! Please know there are so many ppl here to support you...ppl who truly understand...and about feeling feel how you did not ask for all of these things to happen at once and they are difficult to handle, even individually...wishing you better times; big hugs, J
It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell. (Buddha)
Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love. (Laotzu)

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   Posted 3/2/2010 3:53 AM (GMT -6)   
sending healing prayers of compassion to you. 37 yrs of age. been mentally unwell since the age of 15. possibly younger i feel, albeit i have a supressed and repressed memory. (trauma) know that we are here for you. with compassion, jamie.

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