My sister..........

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   Posted 3/12/2010 4:39 AM (GMT -6)   
I wanted some advice with regards to my sister.
she has recently turned 19 and also recently been diagnosed with Dysthymia.
she has always been an angry kind of person and out dad is Bi-polar so i think it was a given that one of us was going to end up more like him than we'd like to.
she is at college and she says she is stressed to the max but i think she just doesnt know how to cope with things very well.
she is also in a bit of a lost cause relationship with someone who also suffers from depression and i think they'd be better off apart but you can't tell them at that age.
i want to know some ways that people cope with the hopelesseness that this illness(?) causes, or is it a lost cause? i just want to be able to say the right things to get her to look after herself a bit better.
she was given a councellor to speak to but she doesnt want to do that and sometimes i feel angry with myself for thinking that she is just milking it because she now has a name for this.
she is coming over this weekend and im going to help her with college work but i just feel that i wont be able to help enough.
thanks for listening.

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   Posted 3/12/2010 5:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Boo,

welcome to the forum.

I think that the best thing you could do is support her. Don't make a big deal out of this. Dysthymia is a little less severe than depression, but it is chronic, so she will have this forever. The best thing she could do is get on medication for it.

As for her boyfriend with depression. If he gets help, he will be fine. Medications and counseling have come a long way, so don't see it as a lost cause. It is hard to understand depression when you don't suffer from it. We can't control how we feel until we learn some coping mechinisms. So have patience with your sister and take this one day at a time. Maybe ask if she wants to talk about it, but if she doesn't, don't push the issue. Out of sight, out of mind, maybe she would rather not think of it at this time. Just be there for her, that is the best that you can do. And offer suggestions of counseling and going to the doctor for perhaps medications.

She will be the same person, whether she is suffering from depression or not. Don't give up on her, and don't express your negativity of the relationship. Maybe they are good for eachother because they understand what the other is going through. This is not the end of the world. She will be fine with help. Try to encourage her.

Best wishes for a great day.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 3/12/2010 6:38 AM (GMT -6)   
boo, hi, agree with karen's excellent wisdom. take care, with compassion, jamie.

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