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   Posted 3/25/2010 8:52 AM (GMT -6)   
I am feeling so down today.  I feel like I do not have a right to take time for myself that life isn't all about me.  I have three kids, two who are foster kids.  The oldest is 10 and the youngest is 4.  The oldest is giving me such a difficult time.  I feel that no one appreciates what I do.  I also suffer from anxiety.  Last night I lost it and left the house in tears.  Then I felt numb and down when I got back.  This morning I feel beaten down and teary.  My mood is like "whatever".  This is not like me.  I have so much that I need to do but all I want is to crawl into bed and stay there. cry I started Cymbalta a few weeks ago.  Could this be because of the medication?  I just feel listless and sad.  Thank you for listening.

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   Posted 3/25/2010 9:33 AM (GMT -6)   
hi lisa, sounds like your mood is a affecting you. maybe a chat with your doc would be helpful. also you will need to allow some more time for the full theraputic effect to take place. (cymbalta) i am on it myself. 6-8weeks is around the time before it fully kicks in. maybe a mood stabiliser might help. with healing compassion, jamie. ps, sounds like you do a great job with the kids. you need and are allowed time for you as well.

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   Posted 3/25/2010 10:37 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree with Jamie,

Give yourself some ME time. You deserve it. And yes it takes a good six weeks for this medication to reach it's full effect.

Talk to the doc. I think that would help. You might even benefit from counseling at this time. As you have a lot on your plate.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 3/25/2010 10:42 AM (GMT -6)   
That happened to me on zoloft... I felt "numb" like you said. It almost felt like I was in a daze.. like a fog. This may because the medication is too strong... I would definitely report the mood change to your doctor... He would know the easiest transition that could maybe adjust the dosage.

Stress can give me big mood swings, and it sounds like you are down because of the stress you have been under.

The best thing that you can do.. is get out of the house. Instead of lying in bed, maybe go for a walk... it will get your mind off of things. I know its hard to get up , but when I was depressed that helped me the most was going on a walk and looking at different houses and flowers that people had. Even if it was like only 10 minutes , it calmed me down... and I felt accomplished after wards.

As for anxiety... I had panic attacks... I felt like I had to escape... I felt suffocated and when there was a lot of people it made it worse. With a crowded house it may do you some good to just go for a quick walk if you can. Give your mind sometime to relax.

You need to appreciate yourself. Because you have done alot!! You are asking for help, getting help, which is good, and taking care of kids!!

Kids are kids... they will pretty much do what they want and they are not thinking of anyone but themselves. When I was younger all I was thinking was of things that I needed , wanted... they will not understand until they get a little older and have responsibilities. I don't think that any children realize how much their parents do until they have to do it themselves. I own a house , I pay bills, I am 24.
When I was 10 I was thinking of looking cool for my friends, having a social life... and when I younger then that ..pretty selfish acts. I think its pretty normal for children to do that, but you might want to give them just a few things to do or get them into after school activities.

You need you time without kids, and you deserve it. Everyone deserves some time for themselves, and it is not selfish at all to want that for yourself, because kids do it all the time!

Take care!!
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