Welcome to the depression forum. In a way, I feel that both of you could use some counseling. You to get your father's issues out of your mind and her to find out what is going on. So please consider this.
It sounds like she is depressed and needs some help with meds or counseling. For her moods to change like that, it sounds like she needs some kind of help.
It is hard for the partner to help because she needs somebody totally objective. And professional. I kinow that htis is hard for you. You probably feel rather helpless right now. But that is normal. So please talk to her about
counseling and see where it goes from there.
I hope that this has helped a little. I don't have much to offer in advice at this time. But you need to learn to stay in the moment when you are being intimate, and counseling can help you tremondously.
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