Long story shorter, I became complacent with my marriage and Paxil didn't help. It killed my libido and my wife paid for that. I'm trying now to pick up the pieces of what my life has become. 2 months ago my wife hit me with "I love you, but not in love with you". I thought she was cheating on me due to her working out with a new trainer. She showed all the classic signs: talking about new guy, style/attitude changing, snapping at me for little reason, acting cold, and no affection. I reduced my paxil, the libido came back, and she started coming around bit by bit. But now I'm so anxious and needy that I wonder if its the lowered dose. My insecurities are killing my marriage now, but I seem to have no "control" over them. I come to work and simmer in a pot of lonliness. I pace and worry so much that I feel exhausted when I get home (I work alone with lots of time on my hands). I did some detective work and am 90% she is being faithful. I need to shut up and drop this before I'm done, but I've been so impulsive that I bring this guy up all the time... and she may quit on me. What the heck do I do, and what do you all think? Please, I need help.