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   Posted 5/8/2010 10:52 PM (GMT -6)   

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   Posted 5/9/2010 9:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Sea of Love,

Welcome to the depression forum. You sure do have a lot on your plate right now. Much worry, I see. But these are things that you have no control over, so worrying is just making you more depressed. Have faith that everything will work out okay. Take it one day at a time and try to live in the moment.

As for your sister, I guess she might need to see her pdoc and get on some better meds. It is hard dealing with somebody who is bipolar because they are very moody. They can snap in an instant out of nowhere. And you get the bundt of it. But realize that it isn't her talking, it is the disease.

As for your father, well that is another issue. I am sure that he is struggling with his sexuality. Especially being a religous man. He is going to have to work this out for himself. I know that you don't care if he is gay. But I am sure that he does. I think he needs some counseling on this matter. And only he can do that. So that is another one that you can't control. Maybe say a prayer for him, if you believe in prayer. Try to advise him on counseling, if you think he will listen. It sounds like he is in the middle of his own turmoil. And he will have to work that out.

But as far as you. Yes, I think some counseling would be in order. You could use the extra support right now. It sounds like you have been struggling with these issues for a long period of time and I think you could use a break from it all. You have your own life to live and you need to take care of you. That is most important. So check out some counselors and choose one to go to. You might need medication too, so a trip to your doctor could be a good thing.

I hope that you get all of this sorted out. You sound like a wonderful person.

Please read forum rules. We are not to discuss marijuana on the forum. Not even medical. Which is a shame, but that is the rules. So I have to edit your post. Not that I want to, but it is the rules. I have nothing against it myself. But being a moderator, I have to abide by the rules. Enough said on this topic.

I hope that you start to feel better soon. Remember to take care of you. You can't be there for everybody and fix everybody, but you can help yourself. So hook up with some counseling. Take care of you. Do something nice for yourself. You deserve it.

Hugs to you. Karen
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   Posted 5/9/2010 11:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to HW. I agree with Karen that a good counselor & psychiatrist would be helpful to you. Mental health issues seem to get worse the longer we wait to get them treated, so by getting in sooner you have a better chance at stopping the progression.

I do want to encourage you in the strongest way possible to stop taking your sister's medication. She needs those pills & will get worse by missing them. Beyond that, it could be making your own condition worse over time. If you do have a health condition that warrants taking that medication, it should be prescribed by a doctor who can monitor you. Klonopin can have very dangerous side effects & you could be putting your health at risk by continuing to take it.

You might also check out the Bipolar Forum on this site. It has a lot of good information for people diagnosed Bipolar or their loved ones. I will say, though, that while I can't comment on your sister's prognosis that there are people out there who can work & lead successful lives as long as they stay on their medication & take it faithfully every single day. My sister-in-law is a very successful businesswoman even though she's bipolar. Before she got on a good combination of medications, she was a mess. She got into all kinds of trouble & often ended up in the hospital to protect herself & her family. At first she refused to stay on her medication. Once she became compliant it took about 3 rounds of medication adjustment to find something that worked. Now she has completed college, lives on her own, works a full-time job, is in a long-term relationship & seems to be happy.

I don't know whether maybe your sister has some other issues going on that would prevent her from working once the bipolar is under control, but in any case, almost all mental illnesses improve when properly treated (even if they don't improve to the point that the person can resume regular work).

But like Karen wrote, you need to focus on taking care of yourself first. Your sister is getting treatment & your dad is trying to work his way through things the best he can. By getting well yourself, you will be in a better place to help your family members.

take care,
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