Coping with Divorce and depression

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   Posted 5/13/2010 12:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello all, I am new to this forum but have liked what I've seen so far.  I am a 43 yr old woman with a teenage daughter.  I am currently going through yet another divorce and am extremely scared of what the future holds for me.  I was laid off and recently obtained a temporary job (3months) I don't know why I cannot get this depression thing under control.  I had brain surgery about 6 months ago..unfortunately I put a few pounds on and of course lost my hair...It is coming back I have a very low self-esteem and have had little or no support from my soon to be ex-husband.  I feel good about things one day and then totally down the next.  I am trying to be strong and hold it together for my daughter (from previous marriage).  I have absolutely no energy, it takes all I have to get out of bed in the morning and go to work.  I can't wait to get home to go to bed...Sleep is my escape.  Although I know that is not good for my daughter she needs me to be emotionally available to her especially now..I just don't seem to have anything to give.  Can anyone relate?  Have any words of wisdom?

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   Posted 5/13/2010 12:22 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh goodness can I relate to that! My exhusband up and pretty much abandoned me and my 3 girls for another woman. Talk about devastating, it not only makes you feel like you are less of woman, but then trying to figure out how you are now going to provide for your family without the other income or support. All this happened about 18 years ago, but I still remember that pain. Hugs!

I would really suggest that you get in with your family doc and discuss your depression with him. I want you to remember that this is not your fault and you aren't crazy. What happens is the stress just continues to build up until eventually your serotonin levels in your brain get all out of whack. You are not crazy, this is a medical condition. And its going to possibly take some medication to help you get thru it. I was so like you in the days after the separation. I was like a robot, living my life like a robot, so I do understand how you are feeling. My doctor put me on Prozac and I took that for 2 years straight. It helped me to clear my thoughts and to be able to move forward in my life. I hope you will take the time to take care of you and get in with your family doc soon.

Good luck,
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   Posted 5/13/2010 1:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi rgirl43,

Welcome to the depression forum. I agree with Nanners, I think you should talk to your doctor and maybe even see about counseling as I think you could use some extra support right now. You are going through a really hard time right now and you can use all the support that you can get, including here. We have a lot of wonderful members and I think you will find that this is a good place to come and let things out.

I hope that things get better for you soon. Remember you are stronger than you think. Best wishes hun.

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   Posted 5/15/2010 2:50 AM (GMT -6)   
yeah-massively relate. depression is darn draining. i walk, clears the fog in my head, good for me as well. cholesterol. t1 diabetes and other medical stuff as well. here for you, welcome 2 the forum. remember to take care of you. i know you have a lot on your plate. having a chat with your doc i feel would be a good thing. with compassion, jamie.

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   Posted 5/17/2010 8:10 AM (GMT -6)   

Beautiful post!!!

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   Posted 5/17/2010 11:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello rgirl..
Try to hold your relationship..
You cant escape each and every situation, try to fight it.
It will be better if you spend some time with your daughter.

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