Hey RockerChick, I'm sorry you're going through that right now. Just so you know, I am not going to just say go to free/cheap counseling, I am working myself towards being one myself and I would like to help, if you would have it. I have not dealt personally with parent problems of that nature, but I have had a sort of loss of my mother from her use of pills and alcohol. Nothing of what you went through was easy...but you yourself said your father did have anger issues at the time. It is no excuse for the actions, but at least you know why it happened...and that gives you a good chance to forgive him. Everyone makes mistakes, we all well know, and we would all appreciate the chance of forgiveness. Your mom, also, may or may not have cared as little as it seemed to you...people are influenced by others quite a lot, and the anger problems your dad was dealing with may have been a very large part of her keeping quiet.
You also might consider the reasons for the contention between you and your family. If you review everything, examine yourself, and come to the conclusion that it was really just that your father was going through an anger problem, please try to forgive them. If after you really think about
it and find that maybe you had been not acting as you should, don't be angry with yourself...or feel regret and hopelessness, because that is the realization you need to make things right. Growing as a person, I think, is all about
realizations. If you come to the conclusion that it may have been you, all you need to do is look forward and be what you know you should be. Hehe be happy in either occasion because you have realized the problem AND the solution all at the same time! Give yourself a chance to forgive...give them the chance of forgiveness, make things as you know they should be and feel no regret for the past, for it is exactly that, past and gone. I hope the best for you and I also that this helped to some degree. Please keep posting if you'd like, and I will keep replying :)
Post Edited (-Misunderstood-) : 5/24/2010 9:42:36 AM (GMT-6)