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Chennai Queen
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   Posted 5/25/2010 7:10 AM (GMT -6)   
I go through many websites where they give all kinds of responses on why one should not kill oneself. And it is all good. But I still dont get it - why should I live? What difference do I make? Oh yes, my family will be upset when I die - but they are upset when I live also! And at least for me the pain of living will end no?

No, I am not about to do anything - am well past that stage - dont have the courage anymore to take my life. But I keep wondering - what the hell is the purpose of my life?

I read Paulo Coelho's "Veronika decides to die" - usually his books are full of meaning. But this one was a huge let down. She falls in love and then that guy is her reason to live. How shallow! So what happens when he leaves her or dies? I know a hundred reasons why I should not die - but still cant find one good reason why I should live.

Has any of you found that reason?

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   Posted 5/25/2010 8:02 AM (GMT -6)   
I was pretty suicidal a year ago. I thought nothing would ever get better. My life was meaningless - why live?

Guess what. With the right medication, a year later, I am very, very happy to be alive. So much good has happened that I would never have imagined a year ago.

This is why you shouldn't give up - because things can get better. And they can be good.

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   Posted 5/25/2010 10:34 PM (GMT -6)   
we are all precious, we all have a purpose. i have been on both spectrums. we all have gifts and talents unique to only us. this life, wow, we have been born into it, we live it, we learn from our mistakes, make mistakes, but we should feel precious as well. so, i am finding me, a work in progress, what about you? with healing compassion, jamie

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   Posted 5/27/2010 7:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Yeah, I agree with Jamie. God put us on this earth for some significant reason, but we either find out our purpose later in life or we never do. But we have to have faith in the world and who we are and are meant to become. You might not notice it now, but you've probably already affected someone else's life, someone that would truly be alone if you were suddenly gone. Just try to think positively about life- it's a gift, and it's not going to be here forever. Try to hold on. Sending prayers your way.

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   Posted 5/27/2010 7:21 AM (GMT -6)   
I also agree completely with the previous comments, and Neverbetter really hit on it. Aside your friends, family, people who know you...there is most certainly another reason not to do that. I would suggest looking into the Bible, there is where you find out that are are NOT actually alone, that is where you find a true direction and good purpose to continue living, that is where you will find out that even if no one else seems to care...Jesus Christ will always care, will always be there, will always be a reason to keep on living. Many realizations of serious, dire, needed, and often neglected importance are to be found in a King James Bible, especially if you feel at your wits end...why not give it a shot, a serious consideration. I don't know you any more than what your one post said....but I can tell you right now that I care, that I absolutely do NOT want you do leave this world like that...I wish I was near you and could just hold you and tell you that you really are not as expendable as you might think. Hang in there and keep with us, with me, because if you cannot find anyone else that does care...I do, truly. I hope to see more posts and I will definitely help as much as I can.


Chennai Queen
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   Posted 5/27/2010 8:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks - all of you - you have taken the time to respond. And it definitely helps. I wish I had faith - in something or someone - then I would want to live - not like this, living because I know there is no way out. Forty years of trying to have faith - no luck so far. Wish this gloom would life.
Thanks again.

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   Posted 5/27/2010 1:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
Faith... is the art of holding on to things your reason once accepted, despite your changing moods.

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   Posted 5/27/2010 2:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Try having some faith in yourself. You probably don't realize it but you are a good person for you to know. Learning to love and accept oneself is not always easy, but the work is worth it. Love yourself.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 5/27/2010 3:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Chennai queen,
Like you I have wondered many times 'Why do I bother to live', for example I have lost 3 important people From my life to death in the last 6 months. One of them was an 11 year old disabled girl and she taught me more than people would ever know, The main thing she taught me (bearing in mind she couldn't walk, talk or feed herself, in fact she couldn't do anything for herself), was to 'LIVE DEEP' live every day as if it was your last, make the most of what you have and be happy, even when things are hard and you really can't face another day, just stop, take a deep breath, and say to yourself "I'm lucky to be alive", and IF you believe it then things will start looking brighter, I'm not saying all will be right with the world because it probably won't, but it will start looking better. 
I really hope this has helped as although you may feel that your family are unhappy that your here, believe me they will miss you when your gone.
Good luck and hope your live soon feels a bit happier for you.
Love Lee xx

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   Posted 5/28/2010 12:02 AM (GMT -6)   
hi there
even i thought of whats the purpose of me living but every ones life has a purpose ,which we discover late .and i have realised it nw and even u will realize it soon .believe in ur self and be positive .whenever a negative thought crops up replace it with a positive one it works trust turn me baby and r u a tamilian ,i am one .
wink turn wink

take care sweetie
hugs dipika

Post Edited (nandini) : 5/27/2010 11:08:14 PM (GMT-6)

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