Hey there Neverbetter, I certainly don't claim to have all the answers, but I might at least have some small insight into the issue. First of all, having ones jaw wired shut...is NOT a small deal, that is a mentally and physically taxing event, and it's not a problem to admit to the fact that is IS a problem. Also the fact that you are trying to become more vocal and outgoing, I dont think, will be changed much by the wiring. It will obviously make talking difficult for the immediate time being, but by no means will it impair you forever, just as long as the healing takes. I am sure that you are able to bounce back, jumping right back into your singing. I know all too well how constant pain can seem like an overwhelming force, something that you can do nothing against. It truthfully though is something that just is... it may not be able to be changed, but you CAN have an influence on how you deal with it. You WILL be able to sing again, you will be able to get back to what you love after the procedure is finished, it might just take some patience. Also, your doctor telling you to avoid stressors is just his way of vainly saying something that he thinks may help. One can never avoid all stressors, it is impossible, but you CAN effect your personal involvement in the stress. If it is really going to negatively effect your health, then by all means cut as much stress out as you can, as is actually possible, and with all the rest that is left you need to view it in the best possible light. Getting down on yourself, harboring negative feelings of yourself, and thinking that you cannot do it is definitely normal for most, but I am telling you now, it is not true or correct. You do have the strength to make it, you will be able to have the patience to wait out the procedure until you can start singing again, and when you come to that point you will just laugh at how hopeless you felt at the time. There is no problem or weakness in crying, I find myself in similar situations probably more often than I would prefer to admit...but you have to get that unneeded feeling out somehow, and if crying is it then there is absolutely no problem. Just realize that you arent without hope, support, or a promising future. Keep moving forward, putting the past where it belongs, and taking every situation with the best light. I know you can get through this Neverbetter, and it was not a rant, believe in yourself and in God and you will find a way.