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   Posted 6/1/2010 2:04 PM (GMT -6)   
My son will be leaving for his program in a week and I am already feeling so sad and lonely. The long weekend didn't help. I know I am doing the right thing for him but why does it feel so bad? He really needs this help and they are professionals. I only hope that his program will help him and he will learn to be independent. Because if this doesn't work I don't know what we do. He can't just come back here and live and fall back into his old habits. Besides I want to move from this house. I feel I try so hard and it seems no one understands me. I try and try and I feel like I am standing still. If only I could sell my house and go to a retirement community I think I would be happy for the 1st time in many years. I have so much to do ahead of me it's like I just don't know where to start. I guess the best is to start getting rid of things. I also have to have some work done on the house to get it in good shape to sell.  I just feel overwhelmed. They say God never gives you more than you can handle but I think I have too much. And I don't know where I will get the money to fix up the things in the house. My son's program is costing a lot and I won't have much left for later in life. I may end up on the street. Well I might be able to find low income senior housing. I just don't know what to do anymore.

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   Posted 6/1/2010 3:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Have faith Aurora that this will all unfold as it should. You are doing what is best for your son and you will be rewarded for that. Continue to take this one day at a time, try not to worry about what lies ahead in the future. You are doing what it right, it will all turn out good for you. It just seems scarey right now, because you don't know what the future holds, and you probably aren't use to change.

Your son is going to learn to adapt to a different way of life. A life where he will be making decisions for himself and he will grow from that. So will you. It is going to be so different, maybe even a little scarey. But this will be exciting for him. It sounds like he is going to be in good hands. I am happy for the both of you.

You are probably so use to taking care of him that you feel lost and wonder will somebody else take good enough care of him. But I am sure that they will. They will have empathy, something that is hard to have when you are really close to a person. This will all work out for you and your son. And we will be here to help you through this.

Take care hon, and remember that we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 6/1/2010 5:09 PM (GMT -6)   
Karen, Thank you so much for your reply. I am just hurting so much right now. I feel like I can't even think straight but I wanted you to know how much I appreciate the time you take to keep up with me.
Many hugs,

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   Posted 6/1/2010 7:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Aurora

I am thinking of you also. I don't know the full story but I have picked up on most of it. I am sure it is the best thing for your son and he will benefit from it and so will you. I think Karen is right the reason why you are feeling so lost at the moment is because you have done everything for him for a long time and now things are changing.

I am sure you will be able to sell your house when the time is right, remember it only takes one person to look at it, see the potential and snap it up, I am sure that will happen soon for you. Remember when one door closes another door opens, I truly believe that and I also believe things happen for a reason.

Keep your chin up my friend and hang in there, it will all get better for you soon. You sound like you are deserving of a good turn in life.

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   Posted 6/1/2010 8:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Harrington, It was so kind of you to answer me. It helps to hear from others when I am feeling so bad. I am looking into activities I can join so I can have more to do and not feel so alone. I think I will go back to my childhood church. Everyone says church is a good place to meet people.And it is a rewarding thing to do on a Sunday morning without having to worry about what I will do all day. I guess I need to get  past my son leaving and then I may start to adjust better. I need to get over this feeling that my heart is breaking. He will be back in Aug. but not to live with me anymore. But at least I will see him often, so if I can get over the bump of the summer I will probably do better.  Thanks again, please keep in touch, it means so much to me.

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   Posted 6/1/2010 10:11 PM (GMT -6)   

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